It sounds as if you have been doing great with NC. Sorry about the phone calls, I know they can be setbacks. I'm not certain on the games being played, if any, but I don't think I'm on a weak limb by saying these calls were not the child's idea.
It seems your ex is using the child to see what you are doing these days. I asked you not to use the child that way and it appears you were man enough to do that. I wish someone had given the same advice to your ex. I think that is so wrong.
Stick to what you have been doing, you do not need the games right now...nor does the child. Your ex needs to understand that is a child, her child, and they are a package deal. Those calls almost bother me - a bit....ok maybe a lot. Be honest with her child and move on! I think the truth is, your ex is now having problems moving on. If she really wants to talk to you, she needs to use a better approach than that.
Continue changing and growing. Stick to honesty and showing you are the mature adult. Great job!
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