LRW, Insight and Virgo, I have a question. I have been reading and following this story from the beginning. I know that you are telling him not to talk to the kid at all. I know in the long run that is the best thing to do. But the kid seems to be honestly looking for a reason why they can't even talk, not even once more. What would be the harm in lrw talking to Addie and explaining, without going into too much detail at all, or a lot of drama, that he has had some things come up in his life that has caused him to make some changes and that includes not being able to be with or see Addie again. Children are more receptive to explanations of situations than many give them credit for. This would allow Addie and lrw to at least say goodbye and put some closure to the obvious relationship they once shared. A disappearing act IS like abandonment, with no reason why, could leave an emotional scar for the next man in his ex's wife to deal with. I can see why Addie is struggling with the situation. One final conversation with the child is what I would recommend. Maybe even a final face to face at the gym they both frequent.
That is my opinion, and I am offering out to the three of you to discuss as well.
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