[SuperDave71]

Darryl2312,


Good morning from Memphis. I just read your post and I know you are hurting. I know that you probably can't get her out of your head and probably your heart.

I do have to present a little reality your way if you don't mind. You have told us how much you love her and can't "get over her". What happened to the love for your ex at the stag party? What happened to all that love when you neglected her? What happened to all that love when you would call her names and be nasty to her?

You are hurting AFTER THE FACT. Did you not see this when you were together? Did she not give you warnings saying she did not like the way you treated her and her son? Did you ignore her? Did you think she would never leave?

Tell me this, I want to be clear on something and PLEASE correct me if I am wrong but according to you post you did the following:

1. Cheated
2. Was nasty to her and argued alot
3. Called her names ( a tart )
4. Scratched her car, harassed her and was arrested

Now my question to you is simple. Why on earth would she WANT TO COME BACK TO YOU? Where is the prize? Where is the man she hope she found in you? What happened to all that love when you were TOGETHER? Why did you find it now?

Is this love or obsession over something that doesn't want you?

Love is patient ... Love is kind....Love is not jealous or boastful....

You have alot of life lessons to learn Darryl and this is not going to be easy. It's funny how we all learn from our failures. It's time to let go Darryl. You need to realize that you were not the man she hoped for. I think this is something you will never forget and hopefully learn from.

I know it's hard. I know all the feeling syou are probably feeling but you must admit your guilt, accept the fact you did not treat her well and learn from it. Take this time to reflect back on your behavior and do something productive to change fo rthe better. You can do it! It is going to take a lot of work but harrassing her and making her uncomfortable will ONLY VALIDATE HER REASON FOR LEAVING.

You are going to have to be strong my friend. Realize that a ring, a poem, a song, a house a car or anything else tanglible is not going to bring her back....

The truth be told ..all she wanted was your love and you couldn't provide that t the time. Love doesn't cost a thing and you can give it away.

Learn from your mistakes and I pray you can get yourself together.

Please continue to post is you need us. I know this is so hard and we are here for you. Thank you so much for sharing your story with us.


I wish you hapiness!

Your Friend,


SuperDave71