LDR can be very inviting and intriguing. That rush of desire and possibility can really arouse a warm craving in anyone. You get the best of conversation and desire to be together because of the distance. You yearn to close that gap and spend time together. I find this to be the initial phase of LDRs.
But distance can soon become a problem for a relationship because you miss out on so much, much time together, things the heart and mind desire that can't be gained over the phone. You begin to lose the sense of being truly together and LDR allows an easier atmosphere for unfaithfulness. I think to truly know and love someone, you must spend time together. If you spend more time apart than together, that will make things strenuous. I think you get lust disguised as love. It's difficult to truly be together, when you are always apart.
But you ask can they last? Of course, anything is possible. There is no written rule to say they will never work. But do I think it's a good idea? No, not if you have no intentions of closing that distance. A successful relationship is about being close and in a LDR one will soon find out that includes more than just your hearts. When the honeymoon feeling fades, your location on the map will show it's importance.
The distance that made things so interesting in the beginning will quickly become your biggest problem. If either of you have no intentions of changing your address, the relationship's future doesn't look good. Relationships are suppose to make one feel secure....LDRs will bring out your insecurities not the secure feeling that should come with love. Just beware and careful. Learn from those that have walked this path.
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