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niuniu · 02-07-2008, 07:50 AM

Hello, my friends there, thank you for your kind words. They all make senses to me. My boyfriend and I are in this LDR for more than three years, so truly we underwent everything you guys talked about. Everything is true, communication problem, trust crisis, failed plan, broken promises, not enough time together, all of this happened. And yet we survived three years, even though I dont know how we did, even though we still have this kind of problems now and then.

I applied for a program that was carried out in a place near him, and I almost succeeded, but failed in the end. It was a big blow for us. I thought I wont have the strengh to do it again, and yet I managed to apply it again this year, so there is nothing I can do but hope it will work out this time. He tried on his part to take opportunities to move to me, and yet no results. I know he has some plan on his mind, but I dont want to ask him about it any more.

So what bothers me is that its not under control of either him or me, the future is still uncertain, we have to lay ourselves at the mercy of God, and the negative thoughts still creep in each time they got the chance, even though I try to be positive. Its been too long, it does take a strong heart to take all these. Its not easy for him, having to put up with my hot-temper in the meantime.

Anyway, thank you all for caring enough to reply. Though no solution is available, its great to have you here.

02-07-2008, 07:50 AM	#8 (permalink)
niuniu Freshman Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Beijing Posts: 15 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts Groans: 0 Groaned at 0 Times in 0 Posts Rep Power: 0	Hello, my friends there, thank you for your kind words. They all make senses to me. My boyfriend and I are in this LDR for more than three years, so truly we underwent everything you guys talked about. Everything is true, communication problem, trust crisis, failed plan, broken promises, not enough time together, all of this happened. And yet we survived three years, even though I dont know how we did, even though we still have this kind of problems now and then. I applied for a program that was carried out in a place near him, and I almost succeeded, but failed in the end. It was a big blow for us. I thought I wont have the strengh to do it again, and yet I managed to apply it again this year, so there is nothing I can do but hope it will work out this time. He tried on his part to take opportunities to move to me, and yet no results. I know he has some plan on his mind, but I dont want to ask him about it any more. So what bothers me is that its not under control of either him or me, the future is still uncertain, we have to lay ourselves at the mercy of God, and the negative thoughts still creep in each time they got the chance, even though I try to be positive. Its been too long, it does take a strong heart to take all these. Its not easy for him, having to put up with my hot-temper in the meantime. Anyway, thank you all for caring enough to reply. Though no solution is available, its great to have you here.