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shipwrecked · 07-03-2008, 12:15 AM

My ex girlfriend and I have been broken up for 3 months and 3 days. We've been in the relationship for 4 years. This is our third time apart but the prior 2 break ups didn't last very long. I initiated all three break ups because I've been miserable and depressed due to the present circumstances in my life.

The prior 2 times we broke she came back to me, the third time i ended it because we were having problems with our intimacy and she started to get complacent and lazy. Now I'm trying to get her back and all she says is that we were not meant for each other. Nothing I do seems to work. I now know that she is the one I want to be with, but she felt I never appreciated her. She says she's happy without me. How could someone who loved me so much, just leave me in the dust and tell me to move on? I'm devastated.

Last month, June 3, I sent her an apology note and roses and here is what she emailed me:

I want to thank you for your letter and the flowers. It was a beautiful gesture, and I appreciate it. But I don't see a future with us anymore, and I hate to cause you any more pain over this decision. Nothing will change my mind, so I would appreciate that there be no more grand gestures, since it's actually quite painful for me. I am very happy that you have seeked help, and I hope everything works out for you. I am satisfied with my decision, and I hope you can both respect and appreciate that, since every person deserves control over their future and decisions.

Two weeks ago, on Friday I tried calling her. Someone picked up for 3 seconds, didn't respond and then hung up. So I tried again and the same thing happened and then I got the ehehehehehe sound. I called once more and left a message on her voice mail asking her to email me when it would be a good time for us to talk. She still hasn't responded.

It's been over three months and I still think about her every second. The pain never ends. I'm working on myself and now know how I can improve the relationship. I just don't understand how someone who loved me all these years, who treated me like gold could just ignore me, and be over me.

What should I do? What is she thinking? Why so cold? I made some mistakes and I'm willing to change. How can I get through to her? Please can anyone give me advice? I'd appreciate that. Thanks.

07-03-2008, 12:15 AM	#1 (permalink)
shipwrecked Freshman Member Awards Showcase Total Awards: 1 Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 20 Thanks: 0 Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post Groans: 0 Groaned at 0 Times in 0 Posts Rep Power: 0	Finding it impossible to move on. My ex girlfriend and I have been broken up for 3 months and 3 days. We've been in the relationship for 4 years. This is our third time apart but the prior 2 break ups didn't last very long. I initiated all three break ups because I've been miserable and depressed due to the present circumstances in my life. The prior 2 times we broke she came back to me, the third time i ended it because we were having problems with our intimacy and she started to get complacent and lazy. Now I'm trying to get her back and all she says is that we were not meant for each other. Nothing I do seems to work. I now know that she is the one I want to be with, but she felt I never appreciated her. She says she's happy without me. How could someone who loved me so much, just leave me in the dust and tell me to move on? I'm devastated. Last month, June 3, I sent her an apology note and roses and here is what she emailed me: I want to thank you for your letter and the flowers. It was a beautiful gesture, and I appreciate it. But I don't see a future with us anymore, and I hate to cause you any more pain over this decision. Nothing will change my mind, so I would appreciate that there be no more grand gestures, since it's actually quite painful for me. I am very happy that you have seeked help, and I hope everything works out for you. I am satisfied with my decision, and I hope you can both respect and appreciate that, since every person deserves control over their future and decisions. Two weeks ago, on Friday I tried calling her. Someone picked up for 3 seconds, didn't respond and then hung up. So I tried again and the same thing happened and then I got the ehehehehehe sound. I called once more and left a message on her voice mail asking her to email me when it would be a good time for us to talk. She still hasn't responded. It's been over three months and I still think about her every second. The pain never ends. I'm working on myself and now know how I can improve the relationship. I just don't understand how someone who loved me all these years, who treated me like gold could just ignore me, and be over me. What should I do? What is she thinking? Why so cold? I made some mistakes and I'm willing to change. How can I get through to her? Please can anyone give me advice? I'd appreciate that. Thanks.