Welcome Shipwrecked to theLoveLogic,
Hey there. I know how difficult this must be for you but it will get easier. It sounds as if she has already moved on. She has been curtious and honest with you and hasn't played any breakup games.
I can remember years ago when I was going thru the same thing. I tried everything to make it work but all I was doing was wasting valuable time. Have you ever run on a treadmill and expected to go somewhere? Have you ever waited for a plane at the bus station? Of course not. Why? Because it would be a waste of your time.
You can't hold on to someone that ISN'T holding onto you. If you do try to hold onto a wet bar of soap too tightly, it either gets crushed or slips through your fingers. She has already told you that she is happy with her decision. I know this is NOT what you want to hear and I am very sorry for that. I know how devastating it can be. Take her words as the 100% truth. Never assume anything.
I used to assume I knew what my ex was saying or thinking and it got me nowhere. I wasted so much time on trying to make her happy that I was wearing myself out.
Do you have a food you DON'T like to eat? If you do, think of it this way...the more you eat it do you think you will start to love it? I doubt it.
Sadly, I cannot tell you what she is thinking and nor should you wonder yourself. My questions are "What are you thinking?" and "What are YOUR future plans for yourself?" I don't believe she is acting cold but I do think she is SHOWING you that it is over.
"Actions Speak Louder Than Words" <-- I live by that.
Go with what you know. I wish you all the best and keep on posting. We are here to listen. Please remember that we have a blogging section here at theLoveLogic.
Take care,
SuperDave71
