hey there!
there is no one way to go about things that is right for everyone--I WISH! however, it has worked best for me. it's only been 12 days, but i feel really good. it has been a huge step in my healing--and i don't know if he's thinking about me, but i have become stronger and happier with my life in this short period of time.
like you, i do have that hope of us getting back together. it's not that easy to just stop thinking about someone if you had a serious, loving relationship--so i doubt that she has forgotten or you are assisting in helping her forget about you. in fact, i'd bet she is a little more intrigued with what you're doing when you aren't letting her in on every part of your life.
i haven't heard from my ex in this time frame and sometimes i do feel forgotten, but i remember how great i feel and those negative thoughts go away. besides, 12 days is hardly enough time for anything drastic to happen in his life--he needed space (in my situation) to think about himself and sort through his feelings--that will NOT happen in 12 days. i know it sounds strange, but i don't want him to come back right now. i'd love to hear from him, i won't lie, but i don't want him to try to get back together with me if he hasn't sorted himself out--that would just put us back into the same silly situation over again.
be patient. i promise, the first few days are the hardest, but you start realizing so much about yourself that you never knew! and i have been surprised to learn the things i've learned about me and i know you'll feel the same way if you take some time for you. |