[divenie]

I will try my best and keep it as short as possible.

I am in a relationship with a man who has a child from a prior relationship. As, some of you might know... I have been supporting my mate throughout this nasty custody battle. Things are just so complicated.


This all started when his ex found out about me... My boyfriend went to pick up his [biological] daughter and her son [step-son]. They came to our home and we took them to my little cousins birthday party. The kids had a blast. His daughter cried and his step-son had a fit when they realized they had to go back to their mom.

A few days pass. As always, my boyfriend calls to speak to the kids. Well, his ex answers the phone and looses it. She out right said so you have a girlfriend! He stays calm and tells her Yes! just the same as you have a boyfriend. To make a long story short. She calls me out of my name [yes the b word] She decided to keep the kids from him.

Here we are. We've been through the court battle. They agree on terms during mediation. During the mediation my mate told me I kept saying kids during the mediation. The mediator said "Sir, what do you mean by kids? You have just a daughter in common, right?" His ex tells him "Don't worry about my son." [I think that hurt him] We did not have to go in front of the judge. Everything seems smooth....right! WRONG!

The first time he goes to pick up his daughter she came outside to the car. I was in the car. [I felt that whatever they needed to discuss was between them]. I look up and they are both headed to the car. My boyfriend goes she wants to meet you. I step outside of the car and she says to me
"Hi, my name is...!" and I respond. She puts on this front like she did not call me out of my name [over the phone to get a rise out of my boyfriend] She continues "Well, we should at least meet." She made a few annoying statements. We just loaded up and left.

About a month has gone by. Yesterday we get a call from my cousin. [my cousins mate and my boyfriends ex happen to be friends! I know complicated!] He said that a commercial had come on television. It was a promo Father's day ad!
He said the boy lost it! "The boy said that commercial was directed to me! Because I don't have a father!" My cousin replied so what about...he mentions my boyfriend. The boy replied! "He beat me and punched me! He used to abuse me!" My cousin said that he sounds like he's being told to say these things!

During mediation the ex tried to cry and claim he was abusive to the kids. It's obvious that the court didn't buy her sob story. Now, it appears she is trying to feed these children lies!

My question is what do I do? It's making my mate really upset because he is not that type of person. The boy is in therapy and I don't think he's doing very well. It's as if she is still playing games.

What to do?

Any sound advice would be greatly appreciated.