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This is one of those tough situations. Initially I have some questions:
1. How old is the daughter?
2. How old is the son?
3. What did the court say in regards to the son (he may not be a biological father, but if he acted in that role while they were together, then he should have rights to see him, courts usually look favourably upon wanting to treat both biological/not children in the same manner)?
4. Why is the boy in therapy?
5. When did he start going?
6. Is the mother in therapy (you mentioned meds...)?
I'll try to be of some assistance forthwith.
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1. The daughter is now 5 years of age.
2. The son is about 10 years of age. My boyfriend raised him from the age of two.
3. I was not present during the mediation. However, my boyfriend told me that every time he use the phrase "kids" the mediator would correct him. Plus, his ex made it clear that he need not worry about the boy. [which I think is silly.] Honestly, my boyfriend is the only father he's known.
4. From what I understand he has had a lot of emotional issues prior to the brake up. I took the time to think about the boys current situation.
His sister is being picked up by us. He also has a younger brother [all of them have different fathers] who is picked up by his father. He is the only one left behind. As the boys father was in the military and up and left. His biological father never calls or anything. That has got to be painful. I'm sure with the recent events it just made things much worse.
5. I doubt the mother is going through therapy.
It's really heartbreaking to see this happen. Plus, my boyfriend's parents have been his grandparents as well. They treated him no different.
IMO, the mother does not seem to understand stability is important for children. She has a habit of just moving from place to place. For example: My boyfriend moved in with her. They were doing the whole family thing. On Christmas, she kicked my boyfriend out of the house....because he purchased the kids a ton of toys and clothes. She was upset because he did not purchase her a gift. She quickly moved another man into the home. Managed to have another child within a years time. Now, she has broken up with the other guy...moved into a tiny apartment with her mom and three kids.
I'm sure that the living situation is a part of it as well.