Approach anxiety is the only thing keeping most men from love, unwavering confidence, and true happiness. Unless you start overcoming your approach anxiety, you could be lonely for a long time to come.
When I first started approaching women, I suffered from the same problem. Sometimes even the thought of approaching a beautiful woman would make me nervous. Often, my buddies and I would stand at the bar for hours trying to work up the courage to approach a woman. We watched other guys approach women, but we could not muster up the courage to approach women ourselves.
I had a lot of approach anxiety about walking over and talking to a woman I didn't know, because I was unsure of what to say and how to get her interested in me right away.
Of course you can learn a few great conversation starters, but then what? What will you do next..., and what if she rejects you in front of everyone? How will your friends react? Will this ruin your night?
I never enjoyed approaching women because of all of the approach anxiety that I would feel. It was like I was watching my life from the outside, but I had no control over what happened.
I saw beautiful women everywhere in my town. I really wanted to meet even one of these women; but every time I tried to approach a woman, my approach anxiety would kick in.
Finally, I realized that my approach anxiety was not only keeping me from meeting a girlfriend, it was having a negative impact on the rest of my life. My fear of rejection from women was starting to spill over into fear of rejection from anyone.
I felt as though everyone was watching me, and that they would laugh at me if I messed it up. What I eventually realized is that people don't care about what is going on with you or the next guy People don't really care about what you are doing, because the majority of the time people are caught up thinking about themselves!
Here's the clincher...
When you walk over to a woman and start talking, people will usually assume that you know her, or she is your girlfriend. Other guys will look at you with respect and awe, thinking "Wow, I wish I could be like that guy".
Although knowing this can be very liberating, it will not completely cure your approach anxiety. What will then? Should you just start trying to pick up girls? Will that allow you to find your true, confident self?
No. Overcoming approach anxiety is more than just learning how to approach women. You also need to learn how to:
1) Have unwavering confidence in yourself
2) Have the skill to engage a female in an ongoing and interesting conversation
3) Create attraction with a woman right away
4) Easily take things to the next stage with a woman
Without those things, you will never experience true success with women. Most of your approach attempts will not make a good first impression, which will only make it harder to overcome your approach anxiety.
Taken from: http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/overcoming_approach_anxiety_overcome_your_fear_of_ rejection