If You Can't Be With The One You Love

[xxSPHYNXxx]

For those of you that know me they know I reflect each night before I go to bed...During one of these reflection nights I made a post which I am going to once again share it was also made not long after I made my first thread post on the LL...Here once again, I would like to share

Over the past couple of days I myself have been reflecting....during that reflection period I posted my first thread and I also put alot of thought into many of the thoughts and hurt not only I have felt, but many of you have been feeling and dealing with.

One of the threads I came across was the Friends With Benefits....what came to my mind was WOW....and "DON'T do it!

During a time when our hearts are broke we often times make bad decisions, I myself have been guilty of this....many times one of the things that I have been told is "if you can't be with the one you love....love the one your with"...what I have responded to this was when you woke up in the morning did it make you feel better? My thought was how could it possibly....
Don't compound your hurt by making a rash decision because you are hurting....you will only feel worse and we don't want to live with regrets.

The heart is a very complex and sometimes "overwhelming" part of each of us....it needs time to heal from one relationship before it can communicate with your head in a "clear" manner what it feels....remember the heart does NOT play tricks on you, it is your head trying to tell your heart or convince your heart your feeling one thing when in fact its not at all.....

I have learned many things, as all of you have...sometimes it has been the "hard" way...there is NO "quick" fix, or bypassing the healing process...give yourself the time not only you heart needs but also the time "YOU" yourself need to become healthy and whole.

We all deserve it and we ALL can do it... reach out to your friends, they are ALWYAYS there for you all you need do is ask...

As I say "spread those wings and allow yourself to fly"

One thing comes to my mind that I want to share and that is... Everyone has a heart but NOT everyone has a soul!

Have a fabulous day!

xxSPHYNXxx

[Dan72]

Bless you Thanks. x

[xxSPHYNXxx]

Hi Dan,

Your welcome, I am hoping while you are working thru the pain of your breakup each day is getting a "tad" easier....some days will be easier than others, keep focusing on "you" and getting Dan back.

xxSPHYNXxx

[OhManINeedCoffee]

Hey, Sphynx.

While I love Crosby, Stills, Nash, and Young, I'll have to disagree with their song. And you're right - friends with benefits is NEVER a good idea. I learned the hard way that I'm just not cut out for it. I think the best thing to do after a break up is to let yourself feel the hurt until you don't need to feel it anymore. After that, you can put yourself back together again more strongly than you were put together before.

Never an easy thing to do, but Sphynx is right - there's no easy way to get over a break up. But there is a productive way to do so.