Why do we want our ex's back?

[thirdeyevest]

So you want your ex back? You want them back because life is not the same without them right? You feel alone all the time, you can’t eat or sleep.

Can you honestly give yourself a reason why you want your ex back that does not include these answers...

1. I love him/her
2. We were meant for each other!
3. I will never find happiness again.


Ok the first answer because you love him/her. Look I understand but is love truly enough? If our needs are not being met than love is just a band-aid. Your relationship is just the wound. Eventually that band-aid is going to fall off and without the proper attention comes the pain. Both people in a relationship have to be on the same page when it comes to what they want/need or at least be willing to sacrifice. You can love someone until you are blue in the face but if they do not love you back guess what...You are stuck with nothing and a blue face.


We were meant for each other? Really, how do you know? The one you were truly meant to be with could be out there waiting for you to find them. The problem is, if you do not let go of the EX you will never find them. I see it this way if two people are meant to be together then they will be together. You can not force love to happen, you can not force someone to feel the way you do and you can not force someone to want to be with you. If your ex wants to come back he/she will and there is nothing you or I can do or say.


I will never find happiness again!

Ok this one is all self doubt. You can be as happy as you want to be, if you accept happiness. You can only get out of this hole you are in once you start digging your way out. You choose how to live your life so get out there and start living it. Happiness is inside of all of us, we just need to open our hearts. You will find happiness again I assure you, I use to say the same thing. I have accepted that my happiness is resting firmly in my own hands. I have the power to put all the negative thoughts behind me and move on.



So I say at this point in time try and not put so much emphasis on getting your ex back. Take some time to allow yourself to be happy with or without your ex. In time you will soon see that regardless the outcome you will be fine. Why? Well because happiness is all up to you!



-Josh

[Silverstar]

GREAT post Josh! Your so right.