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    My mother is a hard worker stuggling and working two jobs. She isnt happy with her life at all. She recently told me something which really bothered me. My mom told me last night she nearly commited suicide. She told me , and I was home this day too which freaked me out even more, she went down to the basement with a bunch of pills and was planning to overdose. And what stopped her was a phone call. I couldnt believe it , and I dont really know what I should do about it or if I should tell anyone.

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    Sorry to hear this City. What you need to do is get your mum some help. Don't blame her or try to come up with answers from her as to why she tried to do this...just try to help her get through it. I know how bad depression can be. It takes away your ability to apply rational thought. Many people trivialise depression...but it is a serious thing.

    I have had friends tell me to 'just get over it'. They have no clue and no concept of how low one can sink when depression sets in. Make sure you comfort your mum and talk to her. Don't try to offer solutions - just be there to listen. But definatley get her into some counselling.
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    Sorry to hear that mate, I'm sure it was easy to hear.

    I absolutely back up what Frangipani has said, first and foremost, she needs to seek professional help from a counsellor or therapist. You should not deal with this alone Dan, and nor should you have to. It sounds like a cry for help, and she absolutely needs to get that help from a professional.
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    I told her that be she semi refused. Thats why I'm not sure if i should tell others to help me convince her, but at the same time that kinda blows her spot so to speak. Thx for the concern guys, i just didnt know where else to go with this

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    I'm sorry you (and your mom) are in this situation too, Dan, and I agree with what Frangi and Dan have said. One of the hardest things to do when you're that depressed is to ask for help - for a whole bunch of reasons, and that sounds like that was what you're mother was trying to do when she told you about this. Definitely encourage her to seek professional help, and as Frangi said, just be there for her and remind her that you're there for her.

    People with depression tend to withdraw from the world, and it makes depression an even lonelier place than it already is - make sure she knows that you are someone that she does not need to withdraw from. But she DEFINITELY needs to seek professional help - she can't get through this by herself, and you can't do it on your own, either. Nor should either of you have to. If money is an issue, look around for free services - they do offer them in most cities.

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    just love her and remind her what a fabulous person she is. Get her the book "when everything changes, change everything" by neale donald walsh. Suggest going to a therapy session together. Do all you can to assist her, then of course its in her hands. Pay extra attention to her right now. I went through that with my mom for awhile. good luck.

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    Default I support what everyone else has said.

    As per the title. I suggest you show her you love her & need her, support her and go to therapy sessions with her if she has no-one else. However do make sure she gets professional help.

    Depression as with most mental illnesses, is not acknowledged/treated as well as it could be; it's hard to make any changes (to help you feel better about life), when you don't even want to get out of bed in the morning and feel like there is no point to life.

    I hope everything starts to look brighter for her. Please keep us up to date & let me know if there is anything I can do to assist.

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    We've been getting along better, I have tried to tell her to get professional help but the problem is she told me she doesnt think its that serious for that. She said another very disturbing thing yesterday which I feel wrong in saying right now. But yeah, I'm wondering if I should get her best friend involved.

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    city, do whatever it takes. Not serious, she wanted to commit suicide. Get her help whichever way you can. good luck. we are here for you.

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    Hope you get through this city, and id take the advise above its very serious issue.

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    City,

    Just wanted to add my suppport and prayers to you and your family, I'd suggest talking to her friend if they are close the more support you and your mother have at this time the better....

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    Tad late on this but I will say suicide is nothing to take lightly EVER. People in our society tend to brush things such as suicide and depression off like it isn't something serious or like it's the own person's fault. Depression isn't just a feeling someone gets, it's a severe chemical imbalance and not something one can just snap in and out of whenever they feel like it. Healthy people don't think about suicide, it is by no means a "normal" part of our thought process. My advice is to try and get your mother help as soon as possible, and just BE there for her when/if she needs you. Just know that her speaking with you about the situation was a cry for help.
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