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1000 Questions Before You Get Married
This survey of questions was posted by an older member of the forum before the forum crash. I just happened to save it onto my computer a while back because I found it interesting and might use it one day. Figured it would do some good to add it back to the forum.
Do you find that sex often controls you instead of you controlling sex?
Would you want your mate to let you know if you haven't sexually satisfied them?
How would you want them to tell you?
Do you think books are a good resource for learning new sex techniques?
If you plan on abstaining from sex until marriage, what sort of physical contact is acceptable? (holding hands, kissing, prolonged kissing, petting, etc.)
What turns you off sexually?
Is it possible for a couple to have sex too often?
What problems could it cause?
How does foreplay enhance your sexual experience?
What sort of sexual things do you discuss with your friends?
How do you feel about anal sex?
Do you feel it is unnatural and/or unhealthy or do you feel it is a legitimate alternative to vaginal intercourse?
Is there anything sexually you find wrong, offensive or distasteful?
Do you usually feel that when we are making love that I am just doing it to make you happy?
Do you consider these sexual experiences to be acceptable and healthy for your relationship or inappropriate and damaging to your relationship:
Threesomes, wife-swapping or orgies?
Do you think it is appropriate to use sex as a negotiating tool?
Is it ever healthy for a husband/wife to withhold sex from their mate?
Would you like to take showers together on a regular basis, only every once in a while or do you prefer to take them alone?
How do you feel about women putting on makeup to make love?
Do you find it sexy or silly?
Do you feel sexier with a tan?
Do you think your mate looks sexier?
Do you think tan, "leathery" skin is sexy?
How would you feel if your mate lit up a cigarette right after sex?
Do you prefer your mate to make the first move or do you like to do it? What's the biggest turn on for you?
Do you think you and your mate could or should have sex even though you are currently mad at each other?
Have you ever had sex with someone else without a condom?
Are there any forms of birth control you will not use?
What are the three most sensitive areas of your body?
Do you think it is damaging to your relationship to role-play while having sex?
Is it just acting out lustful fantasies?
Would you be willing to get your tubes tied or have a vasectomy? What do you think are the purposes of sex?
Do you think answering questions about sex will help make it a better experience for us?
What do you think is the optimum time in general for the best lovemaking?
Did your parents ever discuss their views on sex with you? Would you ever have sex in exchange for money?
For example, would you have sex for $100,000?
What is the minimum amount it would take?
How has your sexuality changed over the years?
What sexual activity have you never before done but would like to try?
For you, do condoms significantly reduce the enjoyment of sex?
Do they help prevent premature ejaculation?
Do you feel you know a lot about sex from experience or that you have a lot to learn?
Do you think you would enjoy phone sex with your spouse if you were apart?
How do you think sex changes as a couple grows older together?
What changes do you think take place after having children?
In sex, do you believe that if it feels good that it must be ok to do?
What places do you fantasize about having sex at?
How could our sex life become even better?
Would you prefer more "quickies" or more drawn out sex?
Would our sex life be more fun if we acted out fantasies, had sex in various places or tried different positions? If so, how should we plan to incorporate those changes?
If your partner had a different last name than yours, whose last name should be given to the child?
If your child was born with a birth defect that required around the clock attention would you take care of the child yourself or let it live in a professional home for children with such disabilities?
What do you think makes the difference between a good parent and a great parent?
Do you believe you need to be married and have children to be "whole"? If you knew with 100% certainty that having children would decrease your marital satisfaction by 30%, would you still want children?
Do you think you want any (more) children?
Do you think parents should foot the bill for their children's college expenses or do you think children actually appreciate and learn more when they have to pay all or a significant part themselves?
How many children do you think you would like to have?
Do you plan on rearing your children close to how you were reared, very differently or a mixture?
What would you want to teach your children about fist fighting?
How much time each day do you think you should spend with your children?
How would you want to decide on what gifts to purchase for your children?
In what areas do you think parents should sacrifice for their children and which areas should they not?
If you and your spouse worked, who would take care of any children you had?
Do you think parents have the right to return (to the store) or give away gifts given to their young children that they feel are inappropriate or junk?
What are reasons a couple should have children?
What are reasons they should not?
At what age do you think you would be too old to have children to really enjoy them?
What are your child-support/custody arrangements with your ex?
Do you believe in tough love - letting children suffer consequences from their repeated mistakes?
Have you ever abused or molested a child (or been accused of it)?
If so, what steps should we take to make sure it doesn't happen again?
If you and your spouse have disagreements about child rearing, what methods do you use?
Would you let your teenager drink alcohol, smoke or do drugs?
If not, how would you try to keep him or her from doing so?
Do you believe children should be seen and not heard?
Why or why not?
If the doctors detected that your unborn child had a severe birth defect and they could easily abort it, would you still have the baby?
Do you think parents should provide cars for their teenagers if they are financially able?
Would you allow your teenager to buy his or her own car if he or she had the funds?
Are you interested in an offbeat wedding (at a nudist beach, underwater, on a roller coaster, etc.)?
What are the pros for eloping? What are the cons?
Does it sound appealing to you?
Who will pay for your wedding?
Does that person then have control over wedding plans?
If your sweetheart had a bachelor or bachelorette party is there anything you would find inappropriate?
Would you agree not to allow anything to occur at your party that your mate feels inappropriate?
How do you feel about your mate showing up at your wedding drunk or with a hangover?
How do you feel about him or her getting drunk at the wedding?
How many of your friends and family would you want to invite (and expect to show up) to your wedding?
Do you belong to a culture that has certain expectations regarding weddings and receptions?
What sort of wedding do you envision having?
For what reasons would you have a completely different type of wedding or even elope?
Would you feel awkward if your partner invited former spouses or lovers to the wedding?
Who do you think will officiate at your wedding?
Do you care?
Do you have any preferences regarding the honeymoon? (hot, cold, not Las Vegas, a surprise, not a surprise, etc.)?
Do you think a woman should take a man last's name?
Why or why not?
How about hyphenated last names?
Would the man consider a hyphenated last name too?
Do you have a vision of a perfect honeymoon (or second honeymoon)?
Are you a virgin? If so, do you plan on staying one until you are married?
How do you feel about having sex during the woman's menstrual period?
What is the difference between sex and romance?
When you are in a hotel with thin walls and a squeaky bed, are you able to make love?
Can you do it at your friend's house or your parent's house?
What would you do if the man has difficulty with premature ejaculation?
Do you have a preference between sex in the morning or at night?
How should we decide what position to use each time we make love? (Take turns choosing? Rotate through our favorites? Try out a new one each week? etc.)
Are there times when you just want a "quickie"?
When are those?