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    OK.. so i've been having sex with a very good friend of mine as of late. it was kinda a non planned thing. Its nice though, because Ive known her for years and care alot about her. Anyways, I find that the first time we did it, I was so nervous that I had a problem keeping it up. The second time I felt more comfortable, and I was able to keep it up but I had a problem coming. It felt really good but the urge never came. Anyone ever have an experience like that? Ladies, havr guys youve been with had this problem? I never had that problem when having sex with the ex, coming was natural and easy, as with my penis staying large. Any ideas as to whats going on here?

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    City,

    This COULD be caused by a mental block. If you feel any kind of nervousness when you are having sex with her that can make a big difference. Maybe you have been so eager to please her that you have worried too much about preformance instead of your own pleasure. It could also be that you "self-satisfy" (everyone does it...relax) too much and dont have as much "mojo" when you are with her because you are already satisfied. We are always good to ourselves because we know what we like. Remember... It's not just about the sex itself that satisfies, it's the way you touch one another and how it feels while you are having sex.


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    Hmm...I can relate to this totally as it's what happened to me with my last ex. We put it down to nervousness at first but it continued - the not being able to come thing or just stopping in the middle of things. Just keep an eye on what happens. I think the worst thing for us (apart from breaking up over it) was that he got worse because he kept worrying and thinking about it...was like a self-fulfilling prophecy, and he kept telling me how 'it had never happened with his ex' which made me feel pretty undesirable

    Hopefully for you it is simply nerves. You can read all my past posts about what happened with me if you want some insight.
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    Maybe having sex with your friend makes you uneasy as it should. My ex and I started out as friends then lovers and now a big zero. What started as a little game got very real and serious for me, not so much for him, and in the end I really got screwed and it ruined our friendship.:oops!:

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    Actually, you have already said this. This was the 1st time you did with her, you felt tense. That's why you could not come. This is the main reason. Not to be too worried about this. It is normal. Sure, next time, when you do with her, the familiarity with her should cause you to ease up.

    Hope to hear good news from you the next time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sextisfaction View Post
    Actually, you have already said this. This was the 1st time you did with her, you felt tense. That's why you could not come. This is the main reason. Not to be too worried about this. It is normal. Sure, next time, when you do with her, the familiarity with her should cause you to ease up.

    Hope to hear good news from you the next time.

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    I agree perhaps the tension in your body is a reflection of a conflict in your mind about whether this is really something you feel ok with doing with your friend. r u in love with her? is she in love with you? if there's an imbalance there it may be your body is expressing the worry you haven't confronted yourself yet.

    on a physical level tho, u could try really breathing with her in sync and focusing on how good it feels next time. and let
    yourself feel how powerful it is to be inside her or how it feels to take her, these kind of thoughts can help u to come.


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    i have never been with a guy that could not drop a load in me. most guys i been with are bad boys and you seem a nice guy

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