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    Default You and your partner have different sex drives...

    How do you come up with a compromise when your partner is fine with having sex maybe every 2-3 days and you want to have sex like every day?
    Last edited by thatdoggirl; 12-08-2008 at 05:41 PM. Reason: personal reasons

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    thatdoggirl,


    Women hit there peak around 30 to 35. OH MY!!! HAHAHAHAHAHA




    ANY MAN...that would rather play video games is NOT A REAL MAN!! GOOD GRIEF!!


    Hmm...Sex or Games....Um....er...I'LL TAKE SEX PLEASE!!



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    LOL. Sheesh.... 30 to 35?! Really??? I'm gonna be in sooo much trouble then. Haha.
    Last edited by thatdoggirl; 12-08-2008 at 05:42 PM.

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    thatdoggirl = sexual tyrannasarus







    Look out...SHE'S ON THE PROWL!!!! AAAARRGGGGHHHH!!!!!




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    :1-pmsl:

    OMG! I am so lucky I am not reading this anywhere public right now. I almost fell out of my chair from laughing so hard. You are one funny jokester.

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    <-- Is headed to Ohio!



    KIDDING!! JUST KIDDING!!! HAHHAHAHAHA




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    ANY MAN...that would rather play video games is NOT A REAL MAN!! GOOD GRIEF!!

    SuperDave....I dont really think that is correct. I dont play videogames at all but I have been in relationships where the other person just didnt care for sex as much as I did.....At first I used to get mad but then I talked to her about it and she told me that physically she just was not up to it and she could help me in umm other ways if needed.....

    In my ex's case she would rather watch dancing with the stars or read her magazine however because she knew I was a very sexual person we compromised on bringing the amount of necessary times we were "together" a couple more times for her....and bring mine down a little....

    So how do you compromise? Each of us lost a little but both of us gained the respect of the other by not wanting everything or nothing at all...

    Let me tell you after a couple of months our drives got in sync...and it was great.

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    I look at it this way.


    As long as both partners are satisfied, that's all that matters.



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    thatdoggirl - I know how you feel with the sex drive thing. I'm going to be 26 this month, and I can't imagine how much worse I'm going to be when I'm in the 30-35 range. I agree with Dave - any man who would rather be playing video games than have sex is NOT A MAN. Video games or sex? This is not a test that anyone should fail...

    I sometimes felt like I had a higher sex drive than my ex. During the days when he wasn't surrounded by stress, we were extremely compatible (also being in a long-distance relationship made us want to make up for lost time when we did see each other). After the stress of life started to hit him, things changed. I'd always feel so rejected when he said he was tired, or when he was feeling sick. For a long time I thought it was an "I'm not attractive" thing, and it turned into a bunch of horrible self-pity. Yeesh.

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    How about having sex while playing video games, I mean some guys can multi-task


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    What about having sex, while playing video games while you BOTH munch on Taco Bell?



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    Default Sometimes a little starvation can sharpen the appetite

    As I'm sure my title implies, for those who want their partner to be more..."affectionate" I would advocate a little abstinence. Yes I know, it sounds like the opposite to what you want, but imagine you work in a chocolate factory all day, do you want chocolate when you go home?

    Ok so for some people the answer to that is yes ;), however the point I'm trying to make is, that something that is rare, or less available often induces more longing in us, than something that's there "on tap" so to speak (it's an inbuilt genetic mechanism).

    For the person with the higher sex drive, I suggest...other means of relief...this gives the person with the lower sex drive, some time to "miss" what isn't there. Also it may help to be slightly reluctant when they initiate the process, let THEM coax YOU into it. I suggest it will become habit to initiate for that person and they'll think about it more and in this manner it may increase their appetite.

    Also as mentioned previously this process often helps people to become more "in tune" with each others sexual needs, thus allowing a happy medium to be achieved.

    Any questions, please direct them at SuperDave71 :p Just kidding SD. I'd be happy to answer any questions on this subject or any other, please let me know if I can be of assistance.
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    Quote Originally Posted by SuperDave71 View Post
    What about having sex, while playing video games while you BOTH munch on Taco Bell?

    I like the way you think, Dave. Volcano taco, indeed...

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    All I want to know is where do I find a girl like thatdoggirl and OhManINeedCoffee?

    Where have you both been all my life! ;)

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