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Hi there and welcome to the forum,
If I'm understanding your story correctly, my perspective would be this:
He was the one who did the dumping, therefore he was the one who made the choice to let you go. For him to keep getting in touch with you and be upset because you haven't tried getting back to him is pretty unfair and (forgive me but) pathetic. In my opinion, the only thing forcing him to be in touch with you is his ego. Actions speak louder than words hon, remember that.
Ego is a powerful thing, and as I always say on here, there is a huge difference between someone wanting you because they love and care for you, and someone wanting you to want them, but have no interest in a relationship with you. Sadly it sounds like his reason is the latter.
My advice is this; take back the control here. Make the decision that you will not be manipulated just to feed his ego. 9 months is a long time to still be suffering the backlash of a break up. Cut all ties with this guy, and all communication avenues and focus on yourself. Don't allow him to play these mind games with you. So, to answer your question. He does not want to get back with you because if he did, and you were open to it, you would already be together. In my opinion, it isn't really about venting either, but more about the fact that his ego is suffering since you've not been chasing him. So what? When he dumped you he lost all rights to your friendship and everything that goes with it.
Wish him and his ego a happy life together and make the choice that you will not be manipulated anymore.
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