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Welcome, and great username! I am afraid I am going to be quite blunt *you've been warned*: Why aren't you doing something about your state of mind?!
You write things like "I am honestly screwed right now" and that you "have nothing", really?!
Let's look again at your life shall we?
Your parents are moving. So firstly you have parents? They didn't die or separate and go to opposite sides of the world so you never got to see them or talk to them again?
You have no friends. Why the heck not? No friends? None at all? I am quite picky about my friends and I only have a handful, it is however my suggestion that nothing is stopping you from going out and getting to know some people and becoming friends with them!
You have no money. Really? No money at all? So you don't have a roof over your head? No gas, electricity, water, heating, food, mobile phone, internet or any other bills then? I suspect, you do actually have money. You definitely have a job, so how about looking at your budget and where all your money goes and trying to find some space for spending money?
You have a poorly paid job. But you do have a job? As opposed to the many, many unemployed who do not?
You cannot afford college. Ok, but you can afford to live, in comparison to many losing their homes?
You are in emotional pain because you did not pay attention to the red flags in your relationship, where his actions were showing you that he was not being honest when he said he loved you (you are not the first person to do that and you certainly won't be the last).
In my humble opinion, you can learn from this experience and yes, it is a bitter pill to take; however it is preventative medicine; next time you will know better. Descartes said "To know what people really think, pay regard to what they do, rather than what they say."
So, I propose you count your blessings:
1) Be glad you have your parents, talk to them when you can, they are your friends too. (Skype is free)
2) Be glad you have opportunities to socialise and are not oppressed by some regime! Go out and be social (you don't need money for this! what about charity work? work friends? library, park, bus stop, etc. seriously I made a friend at the bus stop!)
3) Be glad you have a job, what are your options in terms of promotion or extra shifts/overtime? This might help the money situation, also how about looking for another job?
4) Be glad you have some money, look at your finances, decide where you can make cuts and save, save for socialising or college or getting your car fixed. Ways to cut costs? Do you have a monthly mobile? Do you need all those minutes and texts? Could you save by having a pay as you go? Do you have to have brand name foods? What about the supermarket own brand? Plenty more options on Google!
5) Be glad you realised what a mistake your ex was and move on to someone who will be worthy of you.
Finally and in summary focus on yourself, you are a capable person, with lots to offer, you are unique and you have the rest of your life to look forward to, enjoy your freedom and all the cool things that come with that.
I'd like to hear back from you with a positive mental attitude, as to what you have outlined as your goals and later which ones you have achieved and which you have "modified" or "delayed" or "retired".
You are a very lucky person. Feel it, be humbled by it, believe it, perceive it and do it!
As Buddha said "All that we are is the result of what we have thought. The mind is everything. What we think we become."
All the best,
"Believe nothing, no matter where you read it, or who said it, no matter if I have said it, unless it agrees with your own reason and your own common sense." Buddha