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    Default I have a crush on coworker but don't know if she is interested.

    I work at a small company for about a year now.

    I recently needed to talk to a new coworker for some advice, i already met her a few times but this time something happened.
    Since that meeting i think i have a crush on her, i just can't stop thinking about her.
    I have stopped at her office quite a few times sometimes with excuses, other times because she asked me something.
    I knew she was single but somehow she thought i was in a relationship, she recently asked me about my relationship where i simply replied that i was single.
    Since then we talk even more, sometimes even for over an hour, when i try to leave she usually starts a new subject in order for the conversation to continue.
    Since last week she started to call me when going for lunch.

    This has been going on for about two weeks now, where before we never saw each other.

    I am not experienced in relationships, but i know she makes me feel like i have never felt before.
    I would like to get to know her better, but i am afraid she is just trying to be nice and i will be turned down.

    I hope that someone is able to give me some advise, is she just being nice or might she be interested?
    And if i was to ask her out, what should be the way i ask it?

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    Hi there and welcome,

    Well, if you ask in a casual way, there is no pressure. You could say something like "we always seem to run out of time in our lunch break, maybe we could go for a drink sometime away from the work environment?". You'll probably learn a lot from her response. I was in the same boat as you and did pretty much that. She said yes instantly and we actually went for a drink that evening which led to a relationship a few weeks later.

    It's always difficult to know if someone is interested or just being nice, but from what you have said it does sound like she may be interested. Is she 'just nice' to any other guys there and go to lunch etc with them?
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    Most other guys at the office are a lot older then her (27), and she does not seem interested in them at all.
    My collegue from the same department is the same age as me (26) but she is avoiding him.

    I will try to ask her like you suggested next week. I will try to keep you updated.

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    Be very cautious with romance in the workplace, especially if it's a small office. I know you like her but please consider how this might affect your career. Remember the saying. Don't mix business with pleasure.
    Last edited by OhManINeedCoffee; 09-16-2012 at 10:17 AM. Reason: No links allowed.

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