I have some questions if I may to help me understand things a little more:
1) How old are you both?
2) How long have you been together?
3) How many children do you have and their ages?
4) Do you/she work full time?
5) How are things generally between you other than sexually?
6) Do you do social things together often?
7) Other than about sex, do you argue much?
I look forward to your response,