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Hi, SuddenSleeper, and welcome.
My first question to you is this - how was your sex life after you had your first two children? Was there a "dry spell" for a few months after those births, too?
I obviously don't know all the details regarding your circumstances and your marriage, but if your sex life has largely been good up to now, I'm inclined to think that much of this has less to do with her losing interest in you and more to do with post-pregnancy hormone changes. Pregnancy and childbirth is, as you probably know by now, pretty traumatic on the body, and with childbirth often come a bunch of hormone changes. Also, it's pretty difficult for a woman to feel sexy four months after giving birth. Think about it - her lady parts have basically undergone the equivalent of a small explosion, her skin is stretched and loose, and her body's doing a bunch of weird stuff. I understand that, this being your third child, she's already well aware of the aftermath, but it's still pretty tough to feel sexy and in the mood when you've barely slept and been thrown up on/peed on/drooled on a bunch. There's also a possibility that she's still sore, particularly if she's had stitches or anything.
The breast feeding thing I kind of understand - while it's fine to have sex while breast feeding, I know a lot of women who have been kind of turned off by the possibility of "unwanted sprayage." Has this been an issue after the births of your other two children as well?
If this is something that's totally new, however, I'd suggest that you encourage her to speak to her doctor, especially if she's also feeling depressed. If there's something more to this than hormone changes, then counseling might be a good idea.
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