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Hi, susie, and welcome.
To be honest, I smell a man-child, and here's why (please correct me if I've misread any of the information you gave us):
1. He constantly flirts with other women, gives out his phone number, agrees to send sexy pictures of himself, etc. all because he needs an ego boost.
2. When that behavior upsets you, he manipulates you into thinking you have "jealousy issues," thus shifting the blame onto you in order to avoid taking accountability for himself (i.e., "get a grip," "shut up," "you need to sort out your issues")
3. He plays games with you, i.e., texting you while pretending to be someone else just to see if you'd do anything "unfaithful," and when he got what he felt was "proof," he used that opportunity to break up with YOU (even though you'd already left him). This strikes me as a game he played in order to put himself in power again.
4. He now wants you back because you are not there to give him the validation he craves - if he did not crave constant validation, then he would not flirt with other women "just for a confidence boost."
5. He now wants you back because things aren't going as planned with some other girl.
These are all huge red flags to me. Why? Because real men don't play games to get what they want. Real men have self confidence that comes from within, not from other people - it's called SELF confidence, after all! Real men are accountable for themselves, and, most importantly, real men do NOT love with their egos. Love is a combination of head and heart...loving only with one's ego is a selfish love. If selfish love is all he has to offer you, then I think you'd be better off leaving him alone. After all, the best way to end these kinds of games is NOT to play.
Those are simply my observations, and I'm giving them to you strictly on a "take it or leave it" basis. But let me ask you a few questions as well.
1. Why do you think you might want to be in a relationship with him again? Please give an answer that isn't simply, "Because I love him" - really put some thought into it.
2. What positive things could/did you experience from a relationship with him? Do they outweigh the negatives?
3. When you're with him, do you feel as though you're respected, understood, and heard?
I look forward to hearing your answers.
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