I broke up with bf and not sure i did the right thing?

**susie123** · 12-17-2012, 07:44 AM

I feel pretty bad today. I managed to stay nc all weekend and this morning he text me saying :' you coming to my wedding'. I replied to that saying wth. He said yeah shes gorgeous and perfect and she makes my life. So i texted back saying dont text me again and he said:' so i have a question'.... Then he text again saying :' will you marry me'.
Now this feels like a stupid game to me. What I dont understand is why would someone do this??

**OhManINeedCoffee** · 12-17-2012, 12:27 PM

Oh, for heaven's sake. Who proposes via text message and means it?

Whatever the stupid game is, the best way to stop it is not to play. I'd advise you not to respond to him.

**SuperDave71** · 12-17-2012, 12:40 PM

Susie,

Hello and I have been reading your posts. You will NOT like what I have to say but I will do my best to be honest yet kind. First, you only what to believe the good in this guy. Most of his pathetic ramblings have been via TEXT message. I take it you are a loving and beautiful person, am I correct? Why on EARTH are you allowing yourself to put up with such NONSENSE?? A marriage proposal via TEXT???!! REALLY??!?! Can you not see the insanity in that? Can you not see he is in love with the IDEA of you? He does not spend time with you or he makes excuses NOT to have time for you. (Actions speak louder that words)

Get your backbone out of your purse and snap it back in. This guy, despite your 17 months together is NOT...I repeat NOT the one for you. He is being selfish to the point of being absurd. Seventeen months is NOTHING compared to a lifetime of happiness with the right person.

If you are actually thinking of trying to work this out, I wish you well. I really do but I can almost guarantee (mark my words) that you will regret it a few weeks later.

You can so so much better that this.

Think about it

-SuperDave71

**susie123** · 12-17-2012, 01:50 PM

Hi Kelley and SuperDave71, you two are right as always

i know i am being a pain but i have no one to talk to about this and i really need someone elses opinion, otherwise i will make a mistake again. At first (6 weeks ago) i was considering trying to make it work, 3 weeks ago i was still not sure. After this weekend i knew it would be a stupid idea and after today i think i would make the biggest mistake of my life. He text me tonight saying ' take it as a no'. How immature lol. Oh and i also text him today not to contact me again but he didnt even acknowledge it. Im just thinking is there any point texting back saying seriously i dont want to speak to you anymore or just ignore him now? Not sure.
By the way guys i love how good you are at helping people, thank you soo much!!! It really helps talking to someone.

**OhManINeedCoffee** · 12-17-2012, 02:43 PM

Given that he clearly isn't respecting your wishes to be left alone, I'd say that you are right - trying to make this work would be a big mistake.

The fact is that he just wants to see how you'll react. At this point, since you've made it clear that you don't want him to contact you anymore, I see no problem in simply ignoring his texts from now on. Once he realizes that you're not kidding around, he'll take the hint and leave you alone. And you will be able to move on.

I agree with Dave here... a marriage proposal via text message? Really? What kind of idiot proposes over a text message and expects it to go over well? Forgive my bluntness, but just because he left his balls buried deep somewhere in his sock drawer, it doesn't mean that you can't still snap your backbone into place.

**susie123** · 12-17-2012, 05:50 PM

Ok thank you for supportive words

i will update if anything happens but not heard from him since this morning so hopefully thats a good sign.

**niks** · 12-17-2012, 06:49 PM

personally I would consider changing my phone if he continues , its easier to ignore him that way

**susie123** · 12-18-2012, 09:49 AM

I find it really hard to not do anything and just forget tho

**niks** · 12-18-2012, 04:00 PM

We have all found that hard, but it does get easier I promise , and you will feel better for it when you get through the worst of it. What have you got to lose ? You aren't happy with the situation as it is, and getting back together with him won't solve the problem.

**susie123** · 12-19-2012, 06:43 AM

You are right. I ended it last night and said there is no point in talking anymore. So thats it. Now i need to move on. I really hope i will feel better soon. I feel empty right now. I know i wasnt happy and i know it would never work. But forgetting someone is quite hard.

**susie123** · 12-31-2012, 04:23 AM

Hi, thought i would update. My ex has been really trying to prove he wants to get back together that i gave it one more chance. The thing is, he is a really good friend with a married woman and her husband and their kids. I am starting to get really jealous because he tells her everything that happens between us, like if i have an argument with him or everything that happened before. He told me in a heat of an argument yesterday that she doesnt want him to be with me. This is really getting to me and all i think about is how he is so close to her and how i feel he will never be close to me because he has her. Is this just jealousy or do i have a reason to feel like this? Its really doing my head in. Every day i argue with him about her because they talk all the time on the phone or message each other. Her husband doesnt mind because he is also friends with him. Their kids sometimes sleep at my exs house. What do you guys think? Am i being jealous and controlling or does anyone else think i have a good reason to be upset. Thanks

**susie123** · 05-08-2013, 06:20 PM

Where is everyone??? Lol

**SuperDave71** · 05-11-2013, 09:29 PM

I'm here

**susie123** · 11-24-2013, 06:09 PM

Hi guys!!! Im back! I AGAIN could do with your input please. Just to let u know. I got back together with my ex in december last year and left him again in march this year. Obviously for the same reasons as before
He treated me like I wasnt important. But to keep this short. I ended all contact with him in July this year. I havent said a word to him for months. Now he is contacting me again!! Im starting to think he is crazy. Last thing he text me was : one day I will have you back, you just dont realize it yet. I didnt reply to him
What im wondering is why is he suddenly contacting me again? Is he nuts? He messages me like ever 2 or 4 weeks trying to see if I reply. I never told him in july not to contact me anymore. I just stopped talking to him. What should I do? Is there any point saying stop contacting me or just ignore all his stupid attempts to get a reaction?
Thanks guys I hope someone will answer me. Thanks

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**susie123** · 11-27-2013, 03:20 AM

Where is everyone? Is this site dead?
Why do I feel bad ignoring my ex? He is messaging me every day saying hes missing me and why dont I talk to him. I feel bad. I know im doing the right thing but feel bad about it.

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