"my feelings are a bit hurt and perhaps i have to let it go and just get on with this thing, or end it and move on. i just feel like she has lost interest. i tried to strike up some emotion in her last night and probably made it worse, i just mentioned i appreciate she cares and theres no pressure attached to it its just appreciated and whatever and she didnt bite. quite sad of me, perhaps i should ask myself why am i so desperate for this to work. my first reply would be because it was working and as far as i know i had nothing to do with that changing."
I don't think you need any help dear. Read what you wrote. You feel she has lost interest. You feel you haven't changed/moved the goal posts, she has. You feel hurt.
In my humble opinion you were quite clear on what you wanted. You aren't getting what you need out of this relationship and she appears utterly confused herself to boot!
What do you think you should be doing? What is in your best interests? Don't look at the past or the possible future, look at now and tell me, what the heck is going on and what do you want to do?
All the best,