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    My husbands ex says he is her sons dad granted she was married and living with her husband while with my husband, well I dont think he is the babys father and when we say we want a paternity test done all of a sudden he isnt the dad so only when she needs money or diapers for him thats when my husband once again is this kids dad, we argue about this all the time im afraid this will drive a wedge between us...what should I do any advice

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    Dear Crystal,

    This seems to be upsetting you. Have you talked to your husband about it? If you need a definitive answer I suggest you speak to him. The important thing here for you is to communicate with your partner, explain your fears and feelings and hopes and suggestions. Then there can be some open dialogue between you about what is the best way forward.

    I suggest proposing the idea of setting a clear agreement in writing (email would do) to his ex, stating that unless she takes a paternity test that he will not provide any more money. If she refuses then it is clear. If she takes the test hoping she's wrong about the dad, and it turns out he's not, then that's helpful, his requirement to be involved is removed. However if she takes the test and he is the father, then to stop arguments, I would suggest a set monthly amount by standing order, with instructions about set times in the week/month (if he wants this) that he can see the child and spend time with child.

    If you find you need arbitration, there are centres in the UK that help with this, I'm not sure what is the process in the States.

    All the best,

    "Believe nothing, no matter where you read it, or who said it, no matter if I have said it, unless it agrees with your own reason and your own common sense." Buddha

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