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    I work for a corporation that has very strict rules on employee relationships. I am management, but my direct boss and I had a fling when he first transferred to my location. It was out of character for both of us but a combination of extreme attraction and poor judgment won over common sense.

    It ended on good terms and we have since gotten closer as friends, lots of texting and he has been a huge support during my father's recent illness. We went out to dinner for my birthday recently and at the end shared a long kiss, but broke it off and went our seperate ways.

    Now I just keep thinking about how well we click as friends and how much chemistry we have and I am even considering a transfer so that we could try to make something work between us. I don't want to bring it up to him because it could make things awkward, especially if he doesn't feel the same way, but maybe I shouldn't let a person a care this much about slip away without trying.

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    Dear jmlan,

    Be very careful. You have suffered a lot of stress. It could be very easy to try to divert your attention in this way. If he wanted to be with you, he could have suggested a transfer. IMHO the very fact that he hasn't brought it up or talked to you about it, indicates he's only looking for a friends/work mates with benefits relationship.

    Why do you feel attracted to this person? Are they like your previous partners? What have your previous relationships been like?

    All the best,

    "Believe nothing, no matter where you read it, or who said it, no matter if I have said it, unless it agrees with your own reason and your own common sense." Buddha

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