Is he interested in me?

**Saucy11** · 05-15-2014, 07:19 AM

I need some opinion cause I'm useless at picking up hints. I lunch with this colleague of mine during visits to client places. One time I had a discount card so he used my card and did not pay me back which I wonder why.

One day we went to another client place and the meeting ended around dinner time. He mentioned that he was hungry so we walked around the area and look for food places. In the end, we went to this cafe/restaurant to eat which I did mention I like before. After mains, he said he was still hungry so we ordered 2 desserts. We talked about mainly work and also some random personal stuff such as holiday trips we went, housing, politics and stuff. Then I went to the washroom, he already paid the bill when I came out. I wanted to pay him back but he refused and said it's for us clinching a client deal.

He has a girlfriend and I have a boyfriend. I do enjoy his company and he reminds me of a close friend I had in school whom I had a crush on previously. I'm wondering if he is just being nice? Or is he interested in me?

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**Tiggerinlondon** · 05-15-2014, 07:20 PM

Dear Saucy,

I'm not sure why you are asking? Are you unhappy in your relationship? Usually unless you are single, I would say it is not material if a man is interested (as they generally are programmed to be!) or not, since it's down to if YOU are interested or not. It seems to me, trying to look at it impartially, once he used your discount card and once he paid. That seems fair and in friendships people often try to keep the balance, so that one person doesn't end up being resentful.

Please let us know if there is something more to your question.

All the best,

Annita

**Saucy11** · 05-16-2014, 02:32 AM

Dear Annita,

I am not exactly unhappy with my relationship but I do feel the feeling that like something is missing sometimes. Maybe it is because our personalities and careers are quite different and I feel I just lose the connection or spark.

Well when he used my card it was for a cheap meal at the food centre so it was not like at the cafe. Ok anyway I will let things be and see how they go.

Thanks for the advice

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