Post 30 day NC Challenge

thirdeyevest · 12-16-2008, 09:46 AM

Myfavoriteword- You need to atleast try becuse if you continue to wait all that is going to do is hold you back. There is nothing written in stone that says if you let go that it means for good. If your ex decides to come back then thats great, but let the cards fall where they may. Your heart is telling you that he will realize what he gave up and come back to you. The thing is that may not be the case and thats why NC is so important. No Contact will let you heal and if the day comes that you come to the conclusion that he is not coming back, then at least you have started down the road of recovery...

Keep your head up and you have come to the right place there is always someone willing to offer advice

-Josh

myfavoriteword · 12-16-2008, 09:51 PM

Thanks josh. I'm trying...the whole switching your heart with your head thing is soo hard though! But i see others are doing it, youre doing it... i really do believe that whats meant to happen will happen. it just makes it more difficult when what's meant to happen isnt what you want to happen, you know!?

but anyway, i do believe in NC for a lot of reasons...i am giving myself time to reevaluate the situation. actively taking myself out of his life rather than having him fully push me out (he said he wanted to be friends still...and although i regret actually TELLING him that i couldnt be friends with him rather than just DOING it, he will really see that i mean business. haha).

blah... it still sucks though!
but im doing it

thirdeyevest · 12-17-2008, 10:20 AM

myfavoriteword-
I would not regret telling him that you couldn't be friends because I am pretty sure you have no interest in being just his friend. I know in my situation I told my ex we could not be friends and when she asked why not, I told her that I loved her too much to be just that. I know I couldn't bare seeing her with someone new. Oh and I deserve to be more than her crutch!

If you do No Contact please do it for yourself, not for the sole purpose of getting your ex back. I thought at first it would work to get mine back but I was blinded. As hard as we try we have no control over our ex's feelings. Just work on gettng yourself to where you need to be. If your ex does come back then he will do it on his own. Everything happens for a reason even if we dont know what the reason is just yet.

Jenlove · 03-13-2009, 10:50 PM

Great post! We must all learn to love ourselves first before we can learn to love another person. ;-)

**donelly1** · 04-25-2011, 04:34 AM

Great post! Very inspiring. Im currently just finishing up the first week of NC after an almost 2 year relationship that was my first long term realtionship. Its insanely hard, and of course Im still really wishing she will contact me. I know I need to move on but feel devastated. I cant wait to move on, but emotionally I cant stop thinking about it. Its always nice to hear that others have been in the same boat and made it out on the other side better than before.

**Dan72** · 04-25-2011, 06:47 AM

Take 1 day at a time my friend, slow and steady is sadly the only way through it. We've mostly all been where you are right now, and can guarantee you that by following NC, you WILL make through.

Stay strong buddy.