Stephen although you are very hurt/upset right now, you also are very emotional. I too have to disagree with your statement
I myslef have been on "both" ends, the dumper AND the dumpee... I ended a 17 year marriage and you think I didn't "realize" what I was doing" Break-ups occur for different reasons...and I agree with Daniel...it was very hurtful/painful for me to leave the marriage. There are/were many reasons for the decision as well.I just think all dumpers are stupid and dont relise what they do to some people and what a big misstake it can be
Daniel is again right in saying if you allow negative thoughts/energy to envelope you, you will be a very angry/bitter person. We cannot put entire blame on the partner when a relationship ends.. it took two to be in the relationship, we must learn to accept our faults/mistakes learn from them and hopefully not repeat them.