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    OK ladies! All this talk about online dating has piqued my interest I've been debating going online and a few coworkers and friends have convinced to try it out.

    Now I know the ratio of guys to girls is like 100:1 or something like that so... when you check your inbox, what msgs/emails pique your interest and respond to? I've heard so many stories of guys that send emails but get nothing in return. I expect that when I try given the guy:girl ratio but I'm just wondering if you ladies have any tips that you can help us guys out when we contact a girl online

    Thanks in advance!

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    Post a pic! I've got mine posted, so I expect you fellas to do the same. And make it a recent one. Also, when writing, make it known that you actually read her profile. Do NOT send a canned email that could have easily been written to a million other women. Be funny! If you can make me smile, that's half the battle. If you send her an email and she doesn't respond within the first 24 hours, don't send a follow up asking if your initial email went through. Even if it shows she's read it or has been online, it doesn't mean she's in the mood to respond right away. I'll be the first to admit that if I'm not interested, I simply do not respond. It happens. I get paid back when I write guys and they don't respond. It's just typical of the online dating world.

    But really .... just be yourself and be honest. Don't try to fake common interests just because you happen to like her photo!
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    Zed - what I respond to, first and foremost, is USING CORRECT GRAMMAR AND SPELLING! Maybe it's because I'm working on an advanced degree in English, I don't know, but I've gotten a couple of emails with run-on sentences, misspellings, and no punctuation. Bottom line: I DON'T KNOW WHAT THEY'RE SAYING! It's like trying to decipher the Rosetta Stone. So, I ignore those.

    Women (i.e., me) respond to men who are articulate, positive, and funny. And also, maybe respond to something specific on her profile - just to show that you were paying attention. Hope that helps

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    Oh man, Kelley. THANK YOU. Proper grammar and spelling! I agree 10000000%. I can't believe I forgot to mention that. Not only is it important in your email, but also in your profile!
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    Thanks, Jen. I know I signed up for OkCupid once a LONG time ago to support a friend who was doing it, but I never actively participated. I did get messages from time to time, but nothing makes me hit the "Delete" button faster than "HEY SEXY WHATUP HOW U DOIN GURL"

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    :1-pmsl:

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    Zed, I'm sure you wouldn't say anything stupid like that, as you are an adult with what I perceive to be good common sense.

    I think the other thing to remember is not to take it personally if they don't answer back. Or if they don't answer back right away. Some of us are the kinds of people who have to wait a little while for whatever reason before we respond to anything. Good luck!

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    Thanks for all the comments ladies When it comes to profiles, what type of profile would make you want to message a guy? What kinda stuff stands out to you?

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    lol Kelly!! I am so with you on the grammer/spelling thing!! Soooo important!! It drives me mental when I have to spend forever trying to punctuate THEIR email enough to even understand what the hell they are saying!!!

    Uhmmm,.. sorry Zed,..I'm not really a gal (well, perhaps just on weekends ;)), just wanted to comment on that part! Although, that being said, there is a woman I talk to alot at work, and she chats alot online. She and I constantly laugh at the amount of ridiculous messages she receives that make NO sense at all.

    The other day, she came running over to me in total excitement,..

    "Dan!! OMG!!! I was chatting to this guy last night and he can actually string a sentence together and spell !!!!"

    I'm not sure what the rest of the office thought, but I found it pretty funny
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    Zed - for me, sense of humor and not taking life/self too seriously really stands out from me. I'm really drawn to the profiles that are a little goofy, and honest. I also get scared off a little bit by guys who say they're looking for "the One." A lot to live up to!

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    Zed~

    I too agree spelling, complete sentences, etc. are important... I love a great sense of humor!

    What I have found also, many will NOT respond to winks, emails, etc without a picture....current one is best. I soo have stories to share on what I have heard in regards to the two meeting and the exaggeration on the description... for example.. I was told "I didn't realize athletic and toned" was a sumu wrestler! OMG, I about fell over... tooo funny!

    I myself responded to each wink and email... I felt if they took the time to send one, out of respect I would respond and I did....

    Just be yourself, keep it real.. you will be fine!

    Goodluck...

    Kelley...I am soooo looking forward to your stories....Ill probably need a bowl of popcorn with some milk duds on top as I read them.. HA



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    Wow, thanks everyone fr the words of advice (even you Dan lol)! I think I'll put myself out there this weekend Fingers crossed!

    Rich

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    I agree with everything about. As long as you can spell, have a picture, have a sense of humor, and just be yourself then you'll be fine. Just be real!

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    Rich~

    Can you you give us an update please!

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    It's no fun coming on and reading these after everyone has post since I only have the same things to say - haha! I have never online dated but I did get a few pick me up myspace messages from random dudes. Some of them were obviously the same message sent to a ton of girls and it would just make me laugh thinking that someone was probably dumb enough to answer. But yes, make each one personal somehow. Don't use slang or internet slang. Be yourself and make sure you have all of your information in your profile. Trying to be mysterious just makes you seem creepy in my opinion.

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