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Yea I wonder how she is holding up!
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Day 15,
Dear All,
I am entering here on may day 15, no doubt abt feeling strong day by day but can some one put some focus on this , can this will really help in getting my wife back, we are sepperated from last 5 months she has initiated & there are two kids involved in they are with me right now. Give me some breif idea how does the no contact rule work & how would we come to know whether its working or not.
plg786
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Day 16
I don't know what's my mood today, sad I guess. I miss him a lot.
I do feel bad that I can't be there for him now when he's having a rough time, okay it's clear to me that he doesn't even want me there and I know I need this NC time to clear my head, and heal but .. I just wish there was something I could do but I guess there isn't.
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Day 12
YAY almost two weeks. I feel pretty good today for some reason and I dont know why.....Oh thats right because I had a pretty good talk with a pretty good looking female lastnight...So I have proven to myself that I can be happy again. May not be with this girl or the next one but eventually I'll find her. So needless to say I got a little me back lastnight.
The goal of this whole chalange is to do just that, and I am inching ever so close my friends. A little confidence boost never hurt anyone....
-Josh
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Hey, all - after a VERY long drive to Nashville with a VERY unhappy cat in tow, along with some issues with my Yahoo email address, I finally made it back!
I appreciate you guys thinking about me.I'm glad you all seem to be doing fairly well and hanging in there. I don't know about you, but I'm happy the site is back - it's been such a big help to me, as I'm sure it has for you.
Seriously considering taking advantage of the Taco Bell right by the house...
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Hey great to see ya back Coffee!
We didn't yet get to know each other that well, but I'm glad to see ya here all the same
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YAY. Welcome back Coffee!
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Coffee-
I hope you thought long and hard about that Taco Bell and turned in most ricky ticky
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Day .... 14
Mood: Meh
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Today has been 50/50. Some good and some not so good. I'm supposed to meet a guy for drinks later and I TOTALLY don't want to go. Not because of my ex but because I know this will turn out to be nothing. We talked on the phone last night and I found out that he is JUST out of his marriage. As in just a couple of months. He's clearly just looking for a play thing, which I am not.
My friend says I should go just to get out of the house, but I'm thinking that a bad "date" will only bum me out more. There is some logic to that, right?
I hope everyone else is doing well today.
Last edited by JTV2008; 11-24-2008 at 06:48 PM.
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There is always Logic behind everything, It may not be the best logic but its there never the less. I think if you KNOW it will not turn into anything, then screw it stay home and watch That 70's Show! Thats what I would do!
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Done, Josh! LOL I just sent him and email and said I wanted to reschedule. I mean, it's not like I'm looking for a long term replacement, but just going in KNOWING it'll never be ANYTHING just makes it seem like a total waste of make-up.
Like Greg Bernhardt (the guy that wrote He's Just Not That Into You) would say ....
Don't waste the pretty!
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LOL clever little quote...I agree because Im sure that dude has feelings too, and your doing the right thing by not leading the guy on...
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I honestly think if you still feel the raw emotions of a break up,then it is in may ways pointless going dating,especially if you actually don't want to do it.Originally Posted by JTV2008
To me dating is when you meet someone and you like them and are interested in them enough to want to see them again.Most dates will turn into nothing serious,but they should be fun.
If you don't feel up to it,then I believe you should not go on it.There will be plenty of other dates waiting for when you are more up to it.Also if he's only coming out of a marriage,then he most likely isn't ready either.
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Yeah, reminds me of during the time my bf and I were apart I decided to hang out with this guy. I told him that it wouldn't be a date but we could go to a movie and dinner as friends. He was cool with it but then he kept calling and writing me messages afterward. But I was very clear with him from the beginning and also when I told him again how I felt about him contacting me so much and about how he had just separated from his wife (who happened to be in jail at the time and when she got out called my number to see who I was) LOL. So I know it wasn't the best thing for me and definitely not the best for him. He was just ending a marriage and I understand he was just kind of feeling desperate for having someone in his life so he was eager to jump into a relationship. Luckily I did get to talk with him and he even read my facebook note about my losses in life and stuff. So I think I helped put things into better perspective for him.
So I'm just saying it's better for the BOTH of you to be clear about your feelings and also don't go on a date if you know you're not really wanting to or won't enjoy it or whatever.
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I don't blame you for not wanting to go, JTV. Guys just out of marriage are usually a little messed up - you don't want to get mixed up with that.
I'm actually going out and being social tonight with a friend of mine. Actually, he's my ex - we dated for six years and broke up about 3 1/2 years ago. Miraculously, we have a good friendship going on. Yay for us.
Josh - about the Taco Bell - tomorrow, my friend. Tomorrow. I had leftover chili tonight. It was really good, but my stomach isn't forgiving me.
As far as my current "on a break sort of ex" dude goes, he's still MIA. I was at the Vanderbilt library trying to find some books, and was so exasperated by the confusing claustrophobicness of the place that I had a weak moment and, remembering he had gone to Vandy, sent him an IM asking him how the eff you're supposed to find anything in there. It probably wasn't a stellar move, but I don't expect to hear back. That's the beauty of IM. He wanted us to talk again as "friends" without the "relationshippy stuff," so saying that you're "dropping a brief line to ask how the @!*$ you can find anything in Vanderbilt's library" seems unrelationshippy enough to break any nervous tension.
Should I slap myself on the wrist for this?
Either way, I'm really starting to feel that I don't deserve to be treated like this by someone who claimed to be my friend no matter what. With that in mind, I'm not so sure I'd want him back if he changed his mind about me. Of all the people in his life giving him trouble, I was not one of them. I was the one making him laugh, listening to him vent, and offering to beat up whoever was treating him unfairly those last few weeks. I want someone who's going to really appreciate that about me, rather than become cold and insensitive in order to protect himself from...god knows what.
Sorry for my little rant there, but I feel that means I'm making some progress, despite the disgruntled "Where the crap is the PR section of the library" message.
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