Letting myself be happy

thirdeyevest · 03-02-2009, 09:38 PM

So I sit here 4 months after my recent break up and find myself in a new relationship. Here is the kicker, I am kinda just content at the moment. Three weeks into the relationship and I feel like BLAH! I dont really know why I mean she is VERY attractive, funny, out going etc. I think I skipped past the honeymoon phase or something, I dont know lol...I just may need to allow myself to be happy.

I just needed to get this out, its been bugging the good ol' Josh.

xxSPHYNXxx · 03-02-2009, 09:45 PM

Josh~

Content is good! Allow yourself to develop your feelings in a "real" manner....you have been thru alot and your getting back slowly....how awesome is that?

Three weeks is just the beginning my dear....now if you are telling us six months down the road your feeling blah... then I would have to say hmmmmm....you doing fine!

Hugs~

xxSPHYNXxx

thirdeyevest · 03-02-2009, 09:48 PM

Very good points my friend, I did not even look at it from that point of view. See thats why you and everyone else here are like my 2nd family...You all know me all too well

-Josh

superconfused · 03-02-2009, 10:00 PM

Hey Josh,

That's great to hear man!! You are fine....I think content is good as well. Just relax and have some fun! You got this man!!

-Joe

thirdeyevest · 03-02-2009, 10:08 PM

Joe- My brotha' from anotha' motha', what's up man?...I agree dude I just need to sit back and relax for a bit. Just let things fall into or out of place. I do have this!

Thanks man

-Josh

JTV2008 · 03-02-2009, 10:14 PM

What do you mean by blah? When you say you skipped the honeymoon phase, do you mean you skipped the courting and the butterflies and the giddy moments and instead you just feel comfortable? At ease? At peace?

Those aren't bad things at all!

thirdeyevest · 03-02-2009, 10:18 PM

Yeah no butterflies, It feels like we both just kinda' fell into place. It's comfortable yet confusing because I usually go through the whole "butterflies/giddy" phase and this time I have not.

I am such a beautiful mess lol

xxSPHYNXxx · 03-02-2009, 10:26 PM

Gotta love it when a man says we both fell into place...I'll be keeping up with this thread as I am going to look forward to this "hunt"!

HA

Cheers my friend!

xxSPHYNXxx

**SuperDave71** · 03-03-2009, 10:53 AM

Josh,

Hey there. I am not going to congratulate you just yet. I am happy you are taking that step but something in your tone tells me you MISS the butterflies and all the 'symptoms' a new relationship brings. What is it YOU want Josh? Is this person someone you see yourself with or someone you are content with for now? This is a big question and it may be too early to even answer.

We all want you to be happy but something tells me for some odd reason because it doesn't FEEL right from the beginning that you assume it won't end up being right. The main thing is to KNOW EXACTLY what you want and expect. You have come so far to settle for less than you desire. Take it slow. Enjoy the time together and keep us in the loop. I look forward to hearing your progress.

You take care of you...ok?

Your Friend,

SuperDave71

thirdeyevest · 03-03-2009, 11:09 AM

Dave,

I admit I feel a little weird about not having any of the "new" relationship feelings with this girl. I know I like spending time with her and enjoy her company but at the same time I feel like something is missing. I do have a lot going on in my life right now with getting ready to move, school, work and my band maybe the stressors in life are keeping me from feeling this way with this girl.

I will assure you and everyone here that Josh will not settle...I have come this far and preached the "do not settle" to myself and everyone else for that matter to do that. I will keep you and the rest of LL updated on how things are going. I will also give this girl a fair chance and take it day by day.

-Josh

**SuperDave71** · 03-03-2009, 11:12 AM

Josh,

I could NOT have said it better myself.

YOU DA MAN!

-SuperDave71

thirdeyevest · 03-03-2009, 11:14 AM

Dave,

I learned from you man!

**SuperDave71** · 03-03-2009, 11:18 AM

Josh,

Thanks! The truth be told...you learned it from you. I merely pointed a few things out you already knew, made the decision to change those things for the better and now you will never, ever look back!

Your friends are lucky to have such a friend in you so you can continue to motivate others that need it.

YOU are STILL DA MAN!

<-- Holding up shot of Jack Daniels

Salute'

-SuperDave71

**OhManINeedCoffee** · 03-03-2009, 11:24 AM

*Holding up a "Josh is #1" foam finger*

MaJiK · 03-03-2009, 01:04 PM

Yeah I am with Dave on this one - 3 weeks is way too soon to not have the butterflies and to feel content. Especially if you personally feel like something is missing. Is this your first relationship after your break-up? Have you considered that maybe she is a rebound?