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Hey there and welcome. I have read your thread twice JUST because I did not want to miss anything. From the sound of it, you have yourself a:
1.) non-commited man that only wants sex
2.) A man that gives you excuses as to why he can't seriously date you ( I never knew God was lost but I am certainly glad he found him)
Saying you found God and STILL doing the drinking and 420 is like being sort-of pregnant. It just doesn't happen. What he is doing is plain and simple:
1.) You enjoy sex and he takes advantage of that
2.) He doesn't want to commit to you seriously
3.) He makes excuses or takes off the mask and shows you who he really is yet you keep going back to him (i.e. see reason 1)
No matter if his friends like you, he will not commit. As far as I am concerned you guys ONLY have a sexual relationship and I would NOT be surprised if he is doing this with multiple partners. When two people breakup and then get "friend-zoned", sex should NEVER come into play.
The reason is simple:
1.) If somerthing is freely giving to you, you do not appreciate it as much as something that you have to work for.
2.) If you get it freely, why should he have to pay for it. (in this case, a commited relationship.)
You are getting played and you are allowing it to happen. I don;t care what he SAYS to you, look at his actions. You have had excuse after excuse and now he found God? Come on, the only person he is fooling is you!
The best thing you can do is call his bluff. Take the sex away, starve him so to speak. If he stays with you and still wants to date you, then you have your answer BUT....if he starts becoming "busy" ..or doesn't return text or phone calls...you have your answer.
Stand up for yourself. Despite loving the sex, you need to make a choice. Either stand up and SHOW him you are not his sex machine or do exactly what you're doing and get the same results.
Go with what you know...NOT what you assume or think you know.
"We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act but a habit." -Aristotle