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I'm having a LITTLE trouble following his letter, but I don't know what all was said in your last conversation together.
Off the bat, I feel like he's trying to put the blame on you for things. I'm going to repeat what Mike and Suzie said in your other thread: You have done NOTHING wrong! You were being HONEST and trying to COMMUNICATE. Don't ever second-guess yourself for that.
Second of all, my advice is to simply not answer his letter either way. He's deliberately trying to hurt your feelings, and he's hoping you'll take the bait because it'll make him feel "powerful" to know that he's had this effect on you. Anyone who says, "I only need to know enough about you to maintain a friendship" is NOT WORTH BEING FRIENDS WITH. I know it's hard, and I know you care for him, but I advise you to simply disappear. What he wants is a reply - don't give it to him. If he's going to be as disrespectful to you as he seems to be in this letter he sent you, then my best advice for you is to just walk away with dignity and self-respect - don't sink to his level. I also strongly advise you to go full-on N.C. with this guy. Making yourself unavailable will protect YOU from being hurt by him, and it will probably have a much more profound effect on him than replying to his letter.
Replying and telling him that you'd been right all along about his self-centeredness (and I think you might be right) may seem like a good way to make him aware of this, but, as someone who's had to deal with people like this before, the best thing to do for YOU is to just leave it. Always remember what Dave says: If you don't do anything, you can't SCREW ANYTHING UP!
I hope that helped a little.
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