1000 Questions Before You Get Married

[thatdoggirl]

This survey of questions was posted by an older member of the forum before the forum crash. I just happened to save it onto my computer a while back because I found it interesting and might use it one day. Figured it would do some good to add it back to the forum.

1000 Questions

Do you find that sex often controls you instead of you controlling sex?

Would you want your mate to let you know if you haven't sexually satisfied them?

How would you want them to tell you?

Do you think books are a good resource for learning new sex techniques?

If you plan on abstaining from sex until marriage, what sort of physical contact is acceptable? (holding hands, kissing, prolonged kissing, petting, etc.)

What turns you off sexually?

Is it possible for a couple to have sex too often?

What problems could it cause?

How does foreplay enhance your sexual experience?

What sort of sexual things do you discuss with your friends?

How do you feel about anal sex?

Do you feel it is unnatural and/or unhealthy or do you feel it is a legitimate alternative to vaginal intercourse?

Is there anything sexually you find wrong, offensive or distasteful?

Do you usually feel that when we are making love that I am just doing it to make you happy?

Do you consider these sexual experiences to be acceptable and healthy for your relationship or inappropriate and damaging to your relationship:
Oral sex?
Sex toys?
Bondage?
Threesomes, wife-swapping or orgies?

Do you think it is appropriate to use sex as a negotiating tool?

Is it ever healthy for a husband/wife to withhold sex from their mate?

Would you like to take showers together on a regular basis, only every once in a while or do you prefer to take them alone?

How do you feel about women putting on makeup to make love?

Do you find it sexy or silly?

Do you feel sexier with a tan?

Do you think your mate looks sexier?

Do you think tan, "leathery" skin is sexy?

How would you feel if your mate lit up a cigarette right after sex?

Do you prefer your mate to make the first move or do you like to do it? What's the biggest turn on for you?

Do you think you and your mate could or should have sex even though you are currently mad at each other?

Have you ever had sex with someone else without a condom?

Are there any forms of birth control you will not use?

What are the three most sensitive areas of your body?

Do you think it is damaging to your relationship to role-play while having sex?

Is it just acting out lustful fantasies?

Would you be willing to get your tubes tied or have a vasectomy? What do you think are the purposes of sex?

Do you think answering questions about sex will help make it a better experience for us?

What do you think is the optimum time in general for the best lovemaking?

Did your parents ever discuss their views on sex with you? Would you ever have sex in exchange for money?

For example, would you have sex for $100,000?

What is the minimum amount it would take?

How has your sexuality changed over the years?

What sexual activity have you never before done but would like to try?

For you, do condoms significantly reduce the enjoyment of sex?

Do they help prevent premature ejaculation?

Do you feel you know a lot about sex from experience or that you have a lot to learn?

Do you think you would enjoy phone sex with your spouse if you were apart?

How do you think sex changes as a couple grows older together?

What changes do you think take place after having children?

In sex, do you believe that if it feels good that it must be ok to do?

What places do you fantasize about having sex at?

How could our sex life become even better?

Would you prefer more "quickies" or more drawn out sex?

Would our sex life be more fun if we acted out fantasies, had sex in various places or tried different positions? If so, how should we plan to incorporate those changes?

If your partner had a different last name than yours, whose last name should be given to the child?

If your child was born with a birth defect that required around the clock attention would you take care of the child yourself or let it live in a professional home for children with such disabilities?

What do you think makes the difference between a good parent and a great parent?

Do you believe you need to be married and have children to be "whole"? If you knew with 100% certainty that having children would decrease your marital satisfaction by 30%, would you still want children?

Do you think you want any (more) children?

How soon?

Do you think parents should foot the bill for their children's college expenses or do you think children actually appreciate and learn more when they have to pay all or a significant part themselves?

How many children do you think you would like to have?

Do you plan on rearing your children close to how you were reared, very differently or a mixture?

What would you want to teach your children about fist fighting?

How much time each day do you think you should spend with your children?

How would you want to decide on what gifts to purchase for your children?

In what areas do you think parents should sacrifice for their children and which areas should they not?

If you and your spouse worked, who would take care of any children you had?

Do you think parents have the right to return (to the store) or give away gifts given to their young children that they feel are inappropriate or junk?

What are reasons a couple should have children?

What are reasons they should not?

At what age do you think you would be too old to have children to really enjoy them?

What are your child-support/custody arrangements with your ex?

Do you believe in tough love - letting children suffer consequences from their repeated mistakes?

Have you ever abused or molested a child (or been accused of it)?

If so, what steps should we take to make sure it doesn't happen again?

If you and your spouse have disagreements about child rearing, what methods do you use?

Would you let your teenager drink alcohol, smoke or do drugs?

If not, how would you try to keep him or her from doing so?

Do you believe children should be seen and not heard?

Why or why not?

If the doctors detected that your unborn child had a severe birth defect and they could easily abort it, would you still have the baby?

Do you think parents should provide cars for their teenagers if they are financially able?

Would you allow your teenager to buy his or her own car if he or she had the funds?

Are you interested in an offbeat wedding (at a nudist beach, underwater, on a roller coaster, etc.)?

What are the pros for eloping? What are the cons?

Does it sound appealing to you?

Who will pay for your wedding?

Does that person then have control over wedding plans?

If your sweetheart had a bachelor or bachelorette party is there anything you would find inappropriate?

Would you agree not to allow anything to occur at your party that your mate feels inappropriate?

How do you feel about your mate showing up at your wedding drunk or with a hangover?

How do you feel about him or her getting drunk at the wedding?

How many of your friends and family would you want to invite (and expect to show up) to your wedding?

Do you belong to a culture that has certain expectations regarding weddings and receptions?

What sort of wedding do you envision having?

For what reasons would you have a completely different type of wedding or even elope?

Would you feel awkward if your partner invited former spouses or lovers to the wedding?

Who do you think will officiate at your wedding?

Do you care?

Do you have any preferences regarding the honeymoon? (hot, cold, not Las Vegas, a surprise, not a surprise, etc.)?


Do you think a woman should take a man last's name?

Why or why not?

How about hyphenated last names?

Would the man consider a hyphenated last name too?

Do you have a vision of a perfect honeymoon (or second honeymoon)?

Are you a virgin? If so, do you plan on staying one until you are married?

How do you feel about having sex during the woman's menstrual period?

What is the difference between sex and romance?

When you are in a hotel with thin walls and a squeaky bed, are you able to make love?

Can you do it at your friend's house or your parent's house?

What would you do if the man has difficulty with premature ejaculation?

Do you have a preference between sex in the morning or at night?

How should we decide what position to use each time we make love? (Take turns choosing? Rotate through our favorites? Try out a new one each week? etc.)

Are there times when you just want a "quickie"?

When are those?

[thatdoggirl]

Do you like to talk dirty during sex?

Do you like it when your spouse talks dirty to you?

Are there "dirty" terms that you find offensive?

How do you think it would affect the relationship if a woman often cannot reach climax?

If it was a problem how would you try to solve it?

Do you think it is important that a couple have sex the first night they are married?

If it has been a long and tiring day, would that make any difference?

Do you think that one should mainly focus on pleasing themselves during sex or pleasing their partner? Why?

What do I do that gives you the most sexual pleasure? Do you think it is wise to go to counseling for sexual problems?

If not, how would you want to try to work out the problems?

Do you believe that when a couple has sex for the first time, that some sort of commitment is taking place? If so, what?

Given your current sex drive, how often would you like to have sex with your spouse?

Do you have a favorite foreplay activity to turn you on?

Do you like to cuddle after sex? Is there anything that you know of that works as an aphrodisiac for you?

Is it difficult for you to ask your mate for certain kinds of stimulation? Does a person's sexual past matter if you really love them?

Do you think that you might have a difficult time having a passionate sex life because of a previous sexual experience or because of what you were taught about sex growing up?

Would you like to have sex outdoors?

Would you do it if your partner wanted to?

Are there any songs that make you think of making love?

How would you define satisfying sex?

Have you ever been photographed or videotaped naked?

How do you feel when I tell you I'm not in the mood for sex when you request it?

If I felt that we needed to go to a sex therapist, would you go with me?

On a scale of 1-10, how strong is your sex drive? Is it increasing or is it diminishing?

Do you have any sexual fetishes?

Are there certain times of the month that your breasts are sensitive or that you don't like to be touched?

What kind of clothing do you find sexy?

What sort of lingerie/underwear would you find most sexy on me for a special night?

Do you have any concerns about having sex during pregnancy?

What method of birth control do you prefer? Why?

Would you get tested for sexually transmitted diseases if I asked you?

Do you like to be visually stimulated during the course of making love?

What would you do if your partner found out he or she had an STD after you had been together?

What body parts turn you on the most?

Would you want to do a sexual act even if your spouse thought it was very unappealing?

Do you generally prefer sex to be very active and hot or gentle and warm?

Have you ever slept with a person you now know has a sexually transmitted disease (about 1 in 5 adults have some sort of STD)?

Have you ever been tested for a STD and what was the outcome?

If you are infected, how has it affected your relationships?

Some people think breast and penis size matter when it comes to really good sex. What are your thoughts and/or experiences?

Do you feel self-stimulation is wrong or only when it is accompanied by sexual thoughts of someone besides your mate?

Do you think masturbation is an acceptable form of sexual release when your mate isn't in the mood or available?

Have you ever been or gotten someone pregnant?

If you were in an accident and couldn't perform sexually, do you think your lover would be able to cope with that?

If a man has problems maintaining an erection on a regular basis, what would you try to do?

Do you have a favorite sex position?

Why is it your favorite?

Do you have a preference of making love in the dark, by candlelight or with the lights on?

Who would you feel most comfortable talking with regarding sexual problems?

Do you think they are qualified to give you good help and advice?

If you are in the mood for sex and your mate is not, would you rather your mate say "not now" or "I don't think I can climax, but I'd gladly help you get off."

Would you ever want to take him or her up on it? Have you ever watched a porno movie?

If so, how often do you watch them?

How often do you look at erotic magazines?

If you were ever to become addicted to pornography, how would you like me to help you break the habit?

Are there things that I say or do that lets you know I would like to make love?

There are many romantic/sex games on the market.

Do you think it would be fun to try some out? Have you ever had a one-night stand?

How did that happen?

Do you regret it?

Are there any scents that turn you on?

How would our sexual relationship change if I put on a significant amount of weight?

Do you think our lovemaking should increase when we go on vacation?

Do you think sex is overrated?

Do you think you could be sexually addicted?

Have you ever hit someone in a previous relationship?

Would it bother you if I maintained a friendly relationship with my ex, especially for sake of the kids?

At what point would you become concerned?

In a past relationship, did you ever play games? How so?

If you were married when you died, would you want your mate to feel completely free to marry again?

How long do you think he or she should wait before dating again?

How do you usually feel when you are with me for an entire day?

What makes you think you will be a great husband or wife?

Do we have any unresolved disagreements between us?

How much of your current single life do you want to maintain after you are married?

How long do you think most people can "be on their best behavior" and hide their real selves during a courtship?

If your spouse was having serious doubts about themselves or the marriage and wanted to be separated for six months to think things over, would you agree and personally live as though you still married or would that signal to you that you are free to date again?

In your successful relationships, are the people a lot like you or are they more like opposites?

Have you ever been in a relationship that you wish you never had?

What do you need from a partner to feel completely fulfilled?

Has that changed over the years?

Do the needs of your relationship eclipse your personal needs very often?

When and how do you deal with it?

Has anyone ever done something to you that you have never forgiven?

What was it?

Why haven't you been able to forgive? In what way are you and your partner "opposites"?

Have you tended to date people older or younger than you? Why?


Have your parents given you any warnings about dating?

Do you trust their advice?

What rules or standards do you set for dating? (i.e. No holding hands until you are in love, No kissing until we are talking marriage, No sex until marriage, No dating outside my religion, etc.)

Have you ever broken your rules?

How is the opposite sex an enigma to you?

Have you ever had a bad breakup? Why was it bad?

If I went to a dance or nightclub without you, how would you feel?

What is your definition of "cheating" on your mate?

How would you feel about your spouse opening your personal mail? Bills?

Do you think it is healthy for couples to fight (hurting each other emotionally or physically)?

What steps could we take to express our disagreements maturely so we can have a "fight-free" relationship?

Is there anything in your past that you need to disclose that might have serious consequences on our relationship in the future?

Is there any "dirt" reporters might dig up if you were running for President?

If a teenager asked for your advice on the best way to find a mate that they could spend a lifetime of happiness with, what would you say?

What details does your mate take care of that you know little or nothing about?

What, if anything, do you feel you need to sacrifice or compromise in our relationship to make it happy?

What bothered you most about your previous boyfriends/girlfriends?

Do you consider it cheating if your partner is sharing sexual thoughts and fantasies online with others?

What if they are engaged in cyber-sex?

How do you know when you're in love and not simply infatuated?

What did your previous partners complain most about you?

If the woman in the relationship earns more money than the man how does that make you feel?

Can you recall what made you fall in love with your sweetheart?

What are the things that cause the most arguments in your relationships?

Has anyone every pressured you to get married?

Have you ever considered marrying someone because you were fearful that no one else would come along and you would rather be married than single and lonely?

If a couple has been very unhappy for five years and has tried counseling with no success, do you think they should get a divorce even though no cheating or abuse has taken place?

[thatdoggirl]

Why do you think adultery takes place among married couples?

What do you think you can do to help prevent it in your marriage?

Have I ever done anything or do I do things now that cause you to mistrust me?

Do you enjoy flirting with others?

Why?

What signals do you think flirting gives to most people?

If someone were flirting with you the way your mate flirts with others, what would you think were their intentions?

Over 75% of couples that live together before getting married end up divorcing.

Do you think you would be one of the exceptions or do think that living together before marriage probably hurts a relationship more than it helps?

Have you ever gotten revenge on someone?

What did they do?

What did you do in return?


How would you feel if your spouse raised their voice (shouted) at you?

What do you think is the best way for couples to handle disagreements?

From your previous experiences, when you had a fight or argument with your partner, did you first run to family or friends for advice or comfort or did first try to work things out with your partner?

If I asked you to cut back the time you spend with people or activities and spend more time with me would you do it?

Do you think that if a person offends your mate they have offended you as well?

Have I ever behaved in such a way around someone that made you feel uncomfortable?

How long was your longest relationship? Do you regret staying in it that long?

What do you think is the best relationship advice you've ever received?

Did the person giving it have a great marriage?

What do you think about people who want to wait until they are married to have sex?

Do you usually date people who have similar physical characteristics? What are they?

What's the largest number of people you've dated at one time? Did it cause any problems?

Do you wish your partner were more or less jealous of you?

What in your opinion are the three best things about your lover?

Do you feel that your lover is too needy at times?

In all the couples you have witnessed over the years, which one seems to be most blissful?

What about their relationship would you like to be able to have?


If your spouse wanted to quit work to go back to school, write novels, or do something else that wasn't making any money, how long would you support him or her?

Have you ever thought you were in love and realized that you were only infatuated or you were quite deceived?

How long did it take for you to realize it wasn't real love?

How could I make your life easier or more comfortable?

What is your opinion on how I manage problems in our relationship?

If you partner started breaking things or hitting walls because he or she lost their temper, what would you do?

What if your partner hit or verbally abused you?

If someone decided that they really don't see a happy long-term relationship with you, how would you want them to end it?

If your job took you away from your mate and children for two months each year what would you do with your time?

Do you think your marriage would be strengthened or weakened if this happened regularly?

What is keeping me from relaxing and enjoying our relationship to the fullest?

Do you have a feeling that your partner would like to change any of your qualities or behaviors?

Which ones?

In most circumstances how long do you think most couples should date (having good communication at least on a weekly basis) in order to really know each other well enough to get engaged?

How long should an engagement period be?

If you were single, what rules would you have about seeing people who were already involved with someone or who had just broken up?

What about co-workers or other people you deal with on a daily basis?

What experiences have led you to these rules?

How long could you spend with your partner until you needed a little break and some time alone?

What are your thoughts about telling jokes at your partner's expense?

Currently, how much personal privacy do you desire?

Would it bother you if your mate was in the bathroom while you were using the toilet or the shower?

Do you find boyfriends/girlfriends easy to trust or do they have to earn your trust? In your current relationship do you feel that it is often more work than fun?

Do you think that is a sign something might be wrong or do you think that is how all relationships are?

At this stage in your life do you think you would prefer having children or being child-free?

Do you think your feeling might change?

What are your thoughts on adopting children if you were unable to have children of our own?

Would you adopt even if you could have children?

Would you prefer surrogate motherhood or fatherhood to adoption?

If you had a son, would you want him to be circumcised? Why?

Have you read any literature on the pros/cons of circumcision?

After the birth of your child, how much time would you want to take off from work?

Do you have strong feelings about the mom staying home with the children until a certain age?

If you wanted to become a one-income household after the birth of your child, what lifestyle changes would need to take place?

Do you have a preference of the sort of food you would like your children to eat? (vegetarian, organic, no sugar, etc?)

Would you be willing to change your eating habits to match what you think your children should be eating?

Do you have any strong preferences on naming your children?

Do you think you could learn some important things from a parenting class?

Would you be willing to go?

Should we try to move to an area that has a really good school system for our children?

Would you want your children to be home schooled? Why or why not?

Have you given any thought to how you would want to discipline your children during early childhood, adolescent years and the teen years?
Be specific.

Do you think that constantly buying your children new toys teaches them to become easily bored with things?

What rules do you have that would result in eviction of your teenagers?

How many warnings would you give them?

Do you regularly give financial support to your adult children?

Why?

How would you feel if your spouse kept bailing your children out of trouble by giving them food, money or letting them live at home?

What sort of limitations do you think you would want to place on your children regarding, television, music, magazines, Internet, etc.?

What are the top five qualities that you hope your children will have?

Do you think a room full of toys benefits or hinders children's physical and mental development?

If you had children, what role would you want the stepparent to play?

If you were a stepparent, what role would you like to play?

How strong do you think a couple's marriage should be and how financially stable should they be before they try to have children?

If a woman doesn't feel maternal enough to want to stay home and raise her children, is it better that she make the choice not to have children?

At what age would you tell your children about sex if they started asking questions?

If they weren’t asking questions?

What would you tell them?

Or do you prefer they learn about sex somewhere else?

Do you think it is important that your children be breast-fed for both health reasons and for bonding?

If so, how long do you think your babies should be breast-fed (most babies are breast-fed anywhere from 6 months - 3 years)?

Do you think people who decide not to have children because they don't have a strong desire are selfish or wise?

Who do you think should go to parent/teacher conferences?

What do you think about drinking in front of children?

What about getting drunk?

How much should a husband participate in the care of a baby? (i.e. feeding, changing diapers, late-night responsibilities, etc)?

Does it depend who is the more gifted caregiver?

How do you feel about your children participating in sports where the aim is to hurt one another or there is extreme physical contact such as boxing, football or rugby?

Which, if any, household chores would you expect your children to do? Beginning at what age?

Have you read any books on parenting?

Do you think it is a good idea to read these books by "experts" or just go by instinct or the advice of family and friends? How should decisions be made in the family?

Does the husband have the final say or do you do things democratically?

How were you shown affection as a child?

Do you think you will show your children affection the same way or differently? What do you think is the best way?

Do you think that parents should love and care more for their children than their mates?

Do you think it is natural for parents to want to love their offspring more than the person they married?

If you just found out that you and your mate were expecting a child, how would it make you feel?

How do you think your relationship would change as a result?

Ideally, what are the minimum number of years you think you would need to build a solid relationship/marriage before you add children to the mix?

Do you think that it is important that the father is present at the birth of his child if at all possible?

How would you feel if you only had boys or girls?

Do you strongly want a particular gender?

At what age do you think you would want to let your children group date? Single date?

Will you let them go "steady" when they are teenagers?

Would you mind if your children are sexually active at the same age that you were?

If you felt you had sex too early what do you think would have helped you to wait?

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When you were a child, did you get an allowance? How much was it?

Did you have to do chores to earn it?

How many months of expenses do you think we should have in savings to feel secure?

If we don't already have that much, how should we build up our savings? Do you have health insurance?

If we were to get married, would it be better to combine the insurance under one employer?

What problems do you see with the "my money, your money" approach to finances in a marriage?

What is your dream car?

Where would you have to be financially to justify the expense?

How much do you think a person should give to a church or charity? (maybe put in terms of percentage of income)

Do you think life insurance is a wise "investment"?

Given that nearly 50% of marriages in the U.S. end in divorce do you think prenuptial agreements indicate lack of trust or is it acting wisely to protect what you have worked so hard for?

What do you think would be fair terms in the agreement?

When men and women are dating, who do you think should pay for the date?

Whoever arranged the date?

Whoever makes the most money?

Always dutch?

Some other arrangement?

What sort of tipper are you? Always 15%? Or more or less depending on the service?

After you are married, how much do you expect to spend on clothes each month?

How much money do you have invested or saved (stocks, annuities, retirement funds)?

Do you think you are good or bad at handling money?

How could I help you improve or how could you help me improve?

Do you think you are ever obsessed with money?

Is making/spending money one of the most important things to you?

Do you think about money every day?

What are some things you have learned from me?

Do you think it is a good idea and show maturity to be able to casually date more than one person at a time?

At what point do you feel it is necessary to date only one person exclusively?

Do you think you have dated/gotten to seriously know enough people to know for certain when a great match comes along?

How many minutes of undivided attention per day do you give your lover? Is that usually enough?

Why would you like to be married some day?

Is there anything that you feel like telling your mom or dad but you haven't?

Do you think it would cause more damage to you if you said it?

If not, why haven't you told him?

How many people have you dated that you said "I Love You" to?

What do you think is the secret behind couples that have been happily married for over 30 years?

Have you ever said anything to me that you wish you could take back?

Do you have any fears of deeply loving someone?

In order for you to trust someone, what do you need to see in him or her?

How do you feel about your boyfriend/girlfriend showing up at your house without warning?

What do/did you most enjoy about being single?

What do/did you dislike the most about being single?

If you are dating someone, at what stage do you think it is wise to bring up the idea of marriage?

If you bring up the subject before both of you are really ready to take it to the next level, what potential problems could that cause?

What exactly do marriage vows mean to you?

What are legitimate grounds for divorce, if any?

Have you ever been in a relationship where you believe one person was 100% to blame for some of its problems?

If I were really bothered about you sharing our fights/disagreements with your friends and family would you agree not to do it?

Or would you agree to discuss it with them only if we couldn’t solve the problem on our own within a couple of days?

What if anything would you put before your spouse?

How long is it wise to wait to tell someone you love him or her?

Should you try to build a good friendship first?

Could you live the rest of your life with me exactly the way I am now?


Or would I need to change some things for you to be able to commit a lifetime to me?

How are you and your partner exactly the same?

Do you think our relationship would improve if we didn't watch television?

[thatdoggirl]

Who would you prefer to never speak to again?

What made them so undesirable?

As a general rule, do you always kiss on a first date?

What signal do you think kissing is giving?

How would you like your partner to introduce you to others? (boyfriend/girlfriend, partner, sweetheart, etc.?)

Do you think you and your partner spend enough quality time together?

How would you feel if I began to spend more time working on my hobbies and talents if it took time away from our relationship?

How can I help you with your struggles?

How do you feel about your mate greeting friends (or strangers) with a kiss?

How do you think you can help me to become a better person?

Is there anyone from your past that you still have strong feelings for?

Are they still alive?

Do you still maintain friendships with former boyfriends/girlfriends?

If your mate were uncomfortable about any of those friendships, would you end them?

Have you ever lived with someone you were dating?

In what ways did it lead to your break up?

If you were single, how do you think your life would be different?

Have you ever been engaged? What happened?

How important is it that a couple is friends first before they get into a love relationship?

Do you think it is easy to build a friendship after a couple has already been lovers?

What is the worst thing that a former boyfriend/girlfriend has ever done to you?

What mistakes have you seen in other couples that you want to make sure doesn't happen in your marriage?

Do you keep pictures of your past lovers?

Would it bother you if your spouse had photos of past lovers?

What about old boyfriends/girlfriends they were not intimate with?

Have you ever been stalked by anyone?

What did you do?

What do you find most frustrating about men in general?

What about women?

If someone wanted to finance the startup of your business with no strings attached, what business would you start?

In your present career, how much do you think you will be making in 5 years?

10 years?

If you would earn only 70% of your current wages, would you take a job that gave you 100% professional fulfillment?

Are you content with your current job? If not, why?

What was the best job you ever had? Why was it?

Would it ever be OK or desirable that you or your spouse didn't work?

If you could create the perfect job and get paid well for it, what would it be?

Have you ever gone to your boss and asked for a raise?

Did you threaten to quit if you didn't get it?

Did you get it?

How important is it to you that your mate is intelligent?

More or less important than looks?

Have you ever felt that a promotion has been given to someone else when you were much more deserving?

How did you handle it?

Do you have a role model in your profession?

What about them do you admire?

What to date has been your greatest source of learning?

Do you have a real desire to (or feel that you really need to) get more education?

What do you want to study?

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When do you want to start?

Did you go to college? Where? What degree(s) did you get, if any?

Do you think your education has paid off?

How?

Is your current job position where you thought you'd be five years ago?

How much time do you currently spend working?

What hours do you work?

Will that change when you are married and have a family to come home to?

Do you feel like most people respect your line of work?

Do you think you get the respect you deserve?

How did you choose your major in college?

How important do you think college degrees are in getting a good job?

Does the college experience help you to be a successful person in more ways than just the book knowledge?

When you were a child, what did you want to be when you grew up?

How do you feel about mixing business with family?

Business with friends?

Do you have any experiences with either scenario?

If your great uncle left you $100,000 in his will with the stipulation that you had to invest it for 15 years before you could touch it, what would you do with the money? Be as specific as possible.

Have you ever saved for a major expense or purchase or have you always put it on credit?

How often do you balance your checkbook?

Do you get stressed out when finances are really tight?

If I thought we needed help keeping our finances under control and suggested a “debt counselor” would you go with me?

What is the minimum amount you think you could spend on a wedding and be happy with it?

If you were single and quite wealthy, how would you weed out the "gold diggers"?

Would you ever spend $100 on a bottle of wine? $300?

Under what circumstances?

Have you ever sued someone or been sued?

What were the circumstances?

How much debt do you think a couple should shoulder themselves with the first year or two of marriage given that financial problems early in a marriage is one of the leading causes of divorce?

Do you think you could function without a credit card?

Have you ever tried?

What do you put on your credit cards?

Did you complete your taxes from this previous year?

Who did them?

Do you always file on time?

What sort of plans have you made for retirement?

Do you have money invested in the stock market?

Do you check your stocks every day?

How often do you make trades?

Do you think our family has the right to know your financial affairs (whether you are rich or deep in debt)?

What would you tell them if they asked how much money you and your spouse make or how much money you have in the bank?

Do you have the self-control to only spend each month what you can pay off?

Or do you always carry balances on your credit cards?

Do you think we should keep our money in joint or individual accounts? Why?

How do we decide how to spend our money?

Do we have free reign to spend whatever we want as long as it is "my money" or is there an amount ($100, $500, $5,000) at which we need to discuss before making a purchase?

Do you think it is wise to lend significant amounts of money to boyfriends/girlfriends?

Could it cloud the relationship? D

o you think you have ever been "used" for money?

Do you often feel that your partner doesn't respect your hard earned income by the way they spend it?

Which of us has the best skills at paying the bills and keeping track of our expenses?

Which of us has the best skills for investing our money?

Do you tend to buy luxury items or are you frugal with your money?

Look in your wallet. How many credit cards do you have?

Do you need that many?

Would you rather live modestly and retire modestly at 50 or would you rather live more extravagantly and retire modestly at 65?

Have you ever gotten a second job to help pay for your non-essential purchases?

Do you currently have a will? If not, why?

If you got into financial difficulties, what would you try to do to get out of it?

If you were married and inherited $200,000, how would you decide what to do with the money?

Would your spouse have any input?

What would you want to do if your spouse inherited the money?

Do you think your partner mismanages their money?

How much do you owe on all your credit cards? All other loans?

Do our incomes cover our expenses?

Separately, and if pooled together?

How much do each of us spend each month/year on the following categories: housing, clothing, food, entertainment, debt payment, and miscellaneous expenses.

Should we cut back spending in any categories to achieve our goals?

If you married someone who had a lot of debt and bills, how would you feel about helping your mate pay them off?

Have you ever filed for bankruptcy?

If you and your mate's income doubled, how would you like your lifestyle to change?