Advantages!

[thatdoggirl]

I'm not single right now but I am certainly no stranger to the advantages of being single. LOL.

-You can do whatever you want.
-Watch a countless number of chick flicks.
-Dating.
-Flirting.
-Metting new people.
-More free time.
-You can be a dork without getting laughed at by your SO. LOL
-Don't have to deal with your SO's annoying habits.
-More clearity on figuring out who you are.
-More time to focus on your job and other goals.
-Go out with the girls/guys any time.
-Don't have to share your food.

[Silverstar]

So why do we all fight to find someone, or keep someone, or get someone back... clearly the list of advantages is much longer than the one of disadvantages. People are crazy.

I myself don't mind being single or staying single for the rest of my life. I even like it. There was a time right after my break up that I panicked, and felt the presure to search for someone new before it was to late (I'm 43 so time was running out), but after looking arround for a little while I realized that being single had much more advantages than being with someone.

Being with someone is allways great at first but after a few months you really have to work to keep the relationship good and interesting. At my age I don't want to go through that again, especialy with the men(from my age group) that are left to choose from. They all have so much baggage (just like me)from their previouce relation(s) (Sorry guy's)

I am not saying that the young(er) ones among us should not try to find someone after their break up. They still have to experience life and mariage and kids with someone and hopefuly they'll find someone to grow old with, but for me...I say Long live being single!! Yeay!

[thatdoggirl]

Haha. Yeah, I'm sure there are other things that could get added to the disadvantages list but those were the only 2 things I could think of. I think it all boils down to people having the fear of being alone.

I am in a relationship yet I still think that there are so many more advantages to being single. LOL. But you are right, we all should take our opportunities to experience life and I do want to one day get married and have kids. I know if things didn't work out in the end atleast I gave it all I got and wouldn't have any regrets.

We're all great people and we don't need to be with anyone in order to show our greatness to the world. Being single can be great!

[xxSPHYNXxx]

Silverstar,

There advantages both ways, I agree...It just depends what your looking for at that stage in your life...

Single does have many advantages but finding someone that "completes" you is an amazing thing! You don't need someone to define you... just complete...

Relationships do take work on "both" parts...its just finding and maintaing that balance.

xxSPHYNXxx

[Silverstar]

I agree. Ofcourse, I would encourage everyone that wants to get married to to do so. With all my heart.

BUT.... do not settle for anything less than 80% perfect, or at least very close to that. (see UNCAD's tread about that in the forum "Brake ups".)

Get to know the person you want to marry really good (at least 2 years) and you must be sure that you will be able to take them just the way they are for the rest of your life together. Don't think they will change once your married, or that you will change them if you are a little longer with them. THEY WILL NOT. It is the biggest mistake people make when they get married.

Accept for a few minor changes, people will allways be who they where before they met you, and the only time they act exactly the way you want and like is in those few first months when love is young.(You do the same)

That is why you always hear "They changed" after a break up.
They didn't change, they just became their true self again.

If you're in a young relationship now and there are too many problems allready at this stage, don't waste your time with them. Especially if you are always giving and the other is only taking.

You don't have for ever to look for the best person that is between 70 and80% right for you.

If you'll wait too long you'll be stuck with someone that's 40% or 50% because all the good ones from your age group are taken and you'll end up devorced or unhappely married at the end, taking the lives of your kids into that mess.

Don't spend your day's,or weeks, or month's crying over some guy or girl that broke up with you.
You're loosing precious time to search for mr/mrs right. If your ex doesn't want you, it's probably because you where not their 80% and they have a right to look for that just like you do.

Remember.... 80% or close. They are not easy to find so don't waste time.
It's your future so look for the best you can get.