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12-22-2008, 11:04 AM
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|  Awww, Suzie! I'm sorry you're on this roller coaster. You can do this, I know you can. I agree with Kelley on the whole closure thing. You're not going to get it from him. You need to give it to yourself. I thought I wanted it to, but really, I was just using it as an excuse to talk to him. I say give him so much space that he doesn't know what to do with himself. Now that he see's you contacting him every now and again, he is expecting you to do it. Take this time for YOU. Learn to lean on others (like us!) when you're having a bad night. Hang in there. I'm sorry I haven't been around!
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12-22-2008, 11:18 AM
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| Suzie you haven't stopped yet because you are throwing mixed signals at that dude like a bad triple A pitcher. Maybe, just maybe if you showed him what it would be like to not talk to you for a few weeks he will come to the realization on his own. Instead what you are doing is force feeding him some "you" every 3-4 days with any excuse you can muster up. You may think he does not see these mixed signals but the guys does believe me. You may even say you dont care what he thinks, the fact of the matter is you are pushing him further and further away. Relax and again take a few steps back because you are going to stress yourself out.
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| you're right. i'm really stressing the crap outta myself today. i'm in so many different directions, i'm actually quite confused. i'm going through the freak out of him forgetting about me. i really think that's what drives all of this. it's like i feel like i have to remind him i'm still alive over here. ::sigh:: tomorrow will be better. not sure i have anywhere else but up to go!
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12-22-2008, 11:36 AM
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| Good point, Josh. I agree with him, Suzie! I say let the fella feel what life is like without you. He expects you to get in touch now. And he'll wonder when you don't. And maybe, just maybe he'll come to his own realizations when he feels your absence.
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| thanks, jen. change in subject: how the heck have you been? it's been a while. fill us in!
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| Oh boy .... I'll have to start another thread. LOL I've been VERY busy, but that's a good thing. Saw my ex twice in the last week. It was familiar and comfortable and easy, but the visits also taught me a lesson or two and opened my eyes about what I want/deserve. I'll get it all out on 'paper' tonight.
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| well, that's great, jen! i can't wait to see what you have to say 
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| Oh, and I should probably add that while seeing him was "familiar, comfortable and easy", NOTHING has changed between us.
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| well, what matters is that you seem in great spirits about all of it and that's awesome. i'm verrrry happy for you!
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| Suzie- Again I dont care how stubborn he is he will never forget you. You guys shared many of moments together and that will forever remain with him. I will not lie in time the thoughts will seem more distant but he will never completely forget you. Sights, sounds and even smells can bring back memories, so dont you worry. You take your mind off the subject for a bit and simmer down lol 
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